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Sent to a friend i just found out that my wife has been having a "talking relationship" for the past 11 months with an old ex b/f that has been in and out of jail for abusive relations with others. they were together as teenagers, shes 33 now, and has mentioned on more than one occaision that it was "all about the sex" in high school. we have 1 child and i cant believe that it was only talking as friends. i hate the idea of my 7 year old dauther growing up with a part time dad. we have bben together a total of 11 years. my wife swears it is over and that it will not happen again, but i just cant trust her anymore. i was stupid enough to think a new 3500 sf. house, great vacations and a six figure income was making her happy. i want out, but my daughter has her entire adolesence ahead of her, and teenage life can be tough enough and without a dad probably even worse. i shudder to think what my daughter will think of her dad in the years to come if she knew is allowed a year long affair to happen without consequences.Rating:0.00
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- Trust is powerful and it is vital in any relationship, without it does anything else really matter? This affair has not happened without consequences, there is a lost of trust, there is the future of a family, and there is the well being of your daughter at stake. I also shudder to think what will happen to your daughter and yourself. You need to be happy and with someone you can trust no matter what, Your daughter needs to be happy and she need to know that cheating is not acceptable in a marriage or a relationship. Your options are many, but your choices are few. Do you still love your wife? Do you think counseling is a viable option for the both of you? Do you think that you could get sole custody of your daughter or would you even want to? These are just a few of the many options that you have. But the choice is truly yours, what do you want and how bad do you want it. You can't controll your wife or her feelings for another man, but you can controll how you respond and how you set the boundaries in you relationship. There is an old saying that says "PEOPLE DO WHAT YOU LET THEM DO".
- If you decide to leave her mother because of her lies and deceit, why would your daughter not have a father? You can be just as active in her life and not be with her mother. Don't think for a moment that if you leave her mom you have to leave her too. My Mom knew my dad cheated on her atleast 5 times and he came out the woodwork with a 7 year old son. My mom said she stayed with him for us children. I don't respect that. Because now I'm looking at her like, "What are you teaching me?" My boyfriend cheated on me recently and my MOM told me to leave him. I know I am going to, but her advice was ridiculous because she is still with my dad. Now don't get me wrong, I love my father more than words can express, but I refuse to sit and watch him treat my mother like that. Love your daughter. Respect her mother. And move on, keeping your daughter close.