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Sent to a friend spanking- a very controversial subject for sure. my experience is that about 90% of parents spank out of anger or frustration, not with any hope of doing anything besides shaming or scaring the child into submission. i think spanking has a time and a place, though i have yet to use it on my kids- and don't know that i will.what i don't understand is the parents that spank, slap and yell at kids under 3. young children (under 3 according to numerous studies) do not have the capacity to understand consequences and therefore cannot be held responsible for their actions. it is our job to protect them and teach them- especially at such a young age.
in the last two weeks i have witnessed a young mother slap and yell at her one year old for not being interested in his bottle. another woman, who seemed to be a grandma, smacked her two year old in a store because she was crying and obviously needed a nap. last, but not least, i watched an aunt verbally abuse her 4-5 year old niece in the school parking lot. she called her a dumb bitch repeatedly, among other things, and dragged her forcefully to the car.
here comes the yucky part. all of these women were black. in my part of the city, we have about a 50/50 split between black and white folks. i know that white folks can be just as badly behaved- for sure, for sure. ha- go into any wal*mart in the country to catch a good example of that. but, it seems to me, that i see black women (probably over-stressed and struggling) berating and abusing YOUNG children in public.
is this a cultural thing that i am not aware of? is there any way to approach these women without getting in a fight or argument? i would hate to call the authorities, and am unsure of whether or not this behavior would constitute abuse in their eyes.
-not judging- just curious.
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- I agree!
- Let me tell you , the LAST thing that you would want to do is approach a woman about her kid....especially black (I am black , dont fret) . Alot of the ones you probably see doing this are young and think they have it all under control. I dont have any kids of my own, but everyone has their own parenting style, and it is usually generational. I do agree what you're saying though. Some mothers I have witnessed gettting a little ridiculous with the hitting and yelling. The real research should be after the child has gotten older though. I have seen some spoiled rotten kids who just get verbally reprimanded and thats it, and guess what? When they are older they run right over the parents because they have no respect. Physically disciplining a child is listed in the bible, so I dont rule it as the wrong way to raise a child, it is just about HOW you do it. Too much force at a certain age can definitely mess a kid up. but to each his own, you cant jump up and try to save everyone,its just not going to happen. And i dont think you should up and snitch to the police about what you see , especially if it is somebody you DONT know. I think its best to just give suggestions, if you're dealing with family or friends, but dont approach a total stranger and try and tell them how to deal with their kid.