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Sent to a friend[1454] Baby is not my husband's
My husband had been addicted to internet porn since the beginning of our relationship and he was vebally abusive. Even though I lost my attraction to him, somehow I ended up staying. There was always an excuse as to why I should stay, be it "giving him another chance", "I don't have medical insurance right now", or some other lame excuse.The times that I did muster up the courage to leave, he would pull me back to him. He can be very manipulative and is a consummate salesman.
Last year I finally thought I'd get the chance to be free of him when he told me that he had found a replacement for me...He told me that this person is younger and prettier. But he said that he wasn't leaving our home, that I should be the one to leave, that he wouldn't leave until he was "ready." Once again, I didn't leave, but I it felt like I was losing my mind.
I was surfing the net one day and I came across a website for married people who are looking for excitement. And so I posted an ad, got several responses. I never thought I'd meet any of them, that I would just have conversation and that's all, but they are all so persistent and I got overwhelmed with all the flattery.
I started talking more and more on the phone with one in particular. We arranged to meet, and it was only that one time. After that, I only spoke to him once and never met him again.
To my surprise, I became pregnant from that encounter. I didn't have the heart to have an abortion. Yes, he used condoms and I was also on the pill, and it was a complete shock to me how this happened in the first place.
The ironic twist is that my husband and I tried to have another reconciliation ten days after I met this man. So, although the ultrasound and dates point to the other man being the father, there is a little room for doubt.
The baby is now 9 months old and I don't know what to do. Things have settled between me and my spouse, but I cannot live like this. Yesterday I made another attempt to leave him and he convinced me otherwise.
The worst part is not knowing what to tell my child about her father later on. Do I have her believe that my husband is the father or do I tell her the truth?
Do I tell the real father? Obviously, I haven't although I really wish I could...
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- somebody is lieing, I ain"t saying its you, but somebody. Some big piece of the pie is missing here. it is simply amazing how you became pregnant when you were on the pill and using a condom. come on lady tell the truth or be snag a tooth. you know who the father of your baby is and you know how it happened. before you tell your daughter the truth, you owe it to yourself to be truthful
- You need to stop thinking about yourslef and think about that baby and the right for her to know her real father and her real father to know her. your husband's an asshole and you should leave him alone anyway.
- To the first person who commented: Yes, I was being truthful. Obviously, there is no need to lie here. Sometimes fact is stranger than fiction. I figure that the odds of me getting pregnant given the protection I used are probably up there with winning the lottery.
Even though I've acted very foolishly and will probably never forgive myself for what I've done, I don't regret having my baby. She is my lottery, and I will always value her as such.
To update my story, I have since contacted the real father, and he didn't even want to see a picture of the baby or know her name. His advice was that I should keep quiet about this, pass the baby off as my husband's! He said that he doesn't want to acknowledge the baby because doing so might hurt his "children" His other two children are aged 18 and 17. and wiill be finished with college by the time my daughter's will start kindergarten, so who will really be hurt here?
Well, that's obviously not a good idea. I am getting a divorce from my husband and raising the baby on my own.