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I would really like some advice as to why i do what i do, i am married and have been cheating on my husband with the pastor of my church who is also married, i have tried to ignore my pastor\\\'s advances and cut it off but i sometimes feel obligated to do it,not to mention i am also attracted to him, i know it is wrong and have tried to walk the other way many times, but he call me and sometimes approaches me at church, i don\\\'t want to go to hell, i have prayed and fasted about this and i know i have to make a chose but why is it so hard to resist this man and walk away, please help me understand

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you don't have to walk away from this man, you both can walked together- straight to hell. what is it to understand you are just flat foot wrong and that is what it is. got it, now you just keep on walking.
I wonder how your pastor can stand up and preach after being such a hypocrite.
You wont go to hell because you walk away from him. He's blind leaading another blind fool (you). I mean that with tough love sis. Don't let him use his position to keep you in his gripps and feeling guilty. Those Catholic priests that rape young boys and girls made their victims feel guilty if they resisted them. by the way, your pastor is a demon!!!
Your pastor is a demon!!!! you need to get him out of your life before he starts blocking your blessings. by they way, you're probably not the only one....go take an HIV/AIDS exam like yesterday. Good luck sis.
Now you know I am not judging you or your pastor but you should have some shame.. to be straight forward it appears you are going to church to commit adultry (saying it very nicely) instead of hearing and learning about God's word. Who in the heck in their right mind anyway ..especially you ..can even sit in a church of God listening to a Man who call himself a Man of God having Sex with your happy getting your freak on Ass, how can you even listen to him .. oh i get it .. he preaching about .. what you are will be doing in Bed.. ? OH well Satan is just as busy .. well my advice is to get yourself together find you are real church and not a orgie temple .. if he doing you .. who else do you believe he is doing and don't say no one .. and if you out there doing another man . who is your husband out there doing and it's peeps like you wonder and complain about HIV .. get a grip keep those panties up or put some on .. and step to God right ..
Here is som real good advice... Get a book called surving an affair most christian bookstore will get it for you ... Ask God for forgivenss and Turn from you ways... maybe got a different church. The temptation is so great because the fall will be greater.
this is going to blow up literally... i advise you to leave thy church and seek counseling... as for thy pastor he shall have to answer to the man above... never nice to play around with the lords name, as this is sinning at it's worse...

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you are a ho, u should be on the streets selling yourself on sundays than in church..you would make more money too.
hmmmm, i know where you are at. i know that my pastor's wife wants to be with someone else. our pastor is the dearest sweetest most gentle man, and i feel sorry for him, because i am in the same boat without a hubby who's interested in me.
it's not like he's intentionally looking for someone else............he's just lonely and locked into this marriage cuz god says so. he keeps trying, and honestly, i hate seeing the man try so hard, when i know she's into someone else. it's all so sad. and i don't think we can judge any one else's situations. only god can see our hearts, and know our weaknesses, and hear our cries.
UMMMMM DIS IS EXACTLY WHY I DONT LIKE TO GO TO CHURCH.PEOPLE IN THE DAMN CHURCH HOUSE IS FAKE AS HELL.YOU SUPPOSE TO PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH.DONT TELL ME NOT TO HAVE SEX BEFORE A MARRIAGE OR HAVE AN AFFAIR WHEN THE PASTORS DIRTY ASS IS DOING THE SAME THING.THAT SOME DAMN BULLSHIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
give up religion and enjoy the sex. Sinfully sinless sex is the best.
and what's up with the admin? Did he write the bible? New English Motha Fuka
HYPOCRACY AT IT'S BEST
These situations occur when people are led by their emotions, it's far more than just lust. It's lonliness, attraction, and selfishness... and the only thing that matters is how "I feel", "I am lonely", "I don't feel needed or wanted in my marriage." I,I,I,...this is a dangerous thing...we must not be led by our emotions and when we stop thinking of others we are in trouble as well. Christians can't afford to become selfish. God forgives adultery so ask for his forgiveness, but don't travel that road again. Your pastor needed your prayers not your body. Seek another church...and how were you able to sit in the congregation and not feel like the worst person in the world? A conscience is a good thing.
I wont judge you, but you know it's wrong and it's not the way the church is supposed to function. The thing is, this happens all over the place. It's not just you having this trouble. There are women that are going through this and they know it's wrong but they do it. The problem is the fact that he gets up in front of the congregation and condemn such things. His punishment from God is coming and it will be much greater than yours.
i disagree with so may of the above comments slagging off churches because of this lady's issue. I go to a fantastic Elim Pentecostal Church and we are not perfect, but we are certainly a church of people that really love and obey God to the best of our ability. At the end of the day if you are a TRUE, committed, all-the-way Christian then you couldn't commit adultery in your consicence. If you are a Christian it is a lifestyle and God is number 1 - therefore you couldn't hurt Him by doing that. You are clearly back sliding - if you ever gave your heart to Jesus, and the same goes for your pastor. Sorry but that's what the Bible tells me! And I'm not judging, that's not my job. But I'm saying it how it is. If you love God you couldn't do that. We all make mistakes and sin, but there is deliberate sin and undeliberate sin. This is deliberate sin. BUT not all churches are like this. REAL churches go for God all the way and God moves amazingingly through them, for them and with them. They're the REAL churches. Lady, get soem help and give your heart to Jesus and WALK AWAY FROM THIS PASTOR! He too needs to walk away and get himself sorted with God! Harsh words but I say it how it is - which is what the Bible tells me to do.
From what I hear, it is the religiously educated that should embrace someone like you, in her time of need, however, as usual, the church going folk cast judgement when it is their GOD who should judge, not them.
NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO JUDGE YOU OR HIM. THE PEOPLE ABOVE WHO DO, ARE THE TRUE HYPOCRITES. CALLING THEMSELVES PEOPLE OF GOD BUT LOOKING DOWN ON YOU WHEN YOU ARE ONLY HUMAN AND NEED THEIR LOVE AND UNDERSTANDING. YOU, NOT THEM, ARE THE PERSON GOD/JESUS WOULD CHOSE TO STAND BY AND LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY. AS FOR YOUR PASTOR, HE IS HUMAN TOO. A MAN WHO PUTS HIS CONGREGATION'S NEEDS ABOVE HIS OWN, WHO LISTENS AND ABSORBS THE WOES AND COMPLAINTS OF HYPOCRITES LIKE THOSE ABOVE, YET IS ALLOWED NO SUCH OUTLET FOR HIMSELF. IT IS A FACT THAT 80% OF PASTORS LEAVE THE PROFESSION EARLY DUE TO EMOTIONAL BURN OUT FROM DEALING WITH THE LIKES OF THOSE ABOVE, AND IF HE IS NOT FINDING ANY COMPASSION OR NURTURING AT HOME WITH HIS WIFE (WHO IS ALSO ONLY HUMAN) IT IS UNDERSTANDABLE THAT HE MAY FALL IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE WHO OFFERS HIM THOSE THINGS WHICH HE ALWAYS DENIES HIMSELF.
I think we should just pray for these people and ask God to open there eyes to just what it is although i believe its insercurity witcch is caused by guilt or arrogance either way they ve allowed the enemy to have his way by not dealing with thier thoughts properly the way God says to. I think if they decided to allow God in he would minerster to them just were they went wrong and could help someone eles down the road. Im sure this is not the first time and its not the last its important that we all be honest for God to get the victory out of this. when the soldier had his ear cut offf by peter Jesus healed his ear and the words he used were "even this". I imagine he's saying the same thing.
This is spiritual witchcraft at its finest. I would bet my bottom dollar that you were unhappy in your marriage. Always remember: One can never fall under the spell of a seducer when he/she is content. You were an uncovered sheep wandering... Unfortunately, you wandered into the arms of the very Shepard that was suppose to protect you. Run quickly, young lady! Your soul is on the line. The only refuge for you at this point is an initmate relationship with our Savior. Jesus Christ. The pastor's lot is being prepared unless he repents. The judgment of such a leader is clearly illustrated in Jeremiah the 23rd chapter. I will be praying that the both of you come into sincere repentance and restore your hearts to God.
Hello my Sister in Chirst, I am a pastor myself and I am not going to judge you. The devil is very deceiving and he is a big time liar! My prayer is that you get out of this situation before it gets worse as soon as possible. You are not only cheating on your husband, but you are hurting and cheating on God. My suggestion to you, Sis', is to get in God's presence and stay there. Read Romans 6, Colossion 3 and Galatians 5. The Psalmist wrote in Psalms 119... "I have hid thy Word in my heart that I might not sin against God." A pastor should be going after God's heart, and not after his own fleshly desires... Jeremiah 3:15 says, "God will appoint over you shepherds after HIS own heart, who will shepherd you wisely and prudently." Take heed to God's Word, and following it... follow Christ, and walk in holiness... "Be holy, for Jesus is holy." You can't serve God and the devil, Sis... Totally surrender to the Lord, repent and turn from your evil ways, and the Lord will be merciful unto your soul and forgive you of sins.
is very horrible for you to have sex wit your pastor pls leave the church go somewhere else and confess your sins.is too bad.
As a man of GOD, he should no better. as a follower of CHRIST, you should know better... the bible say THOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTRY. What exempts you and your pastor from this commandment... we all sin and fall short, but we don't have to continue to do the things we don't want to do..... GOD says he will be your perfect strength in your weakness...IF you want him to strengthen you he will do just that..read ROMANS 7; STARTING AT THE 14 VERSE..Ask God for forgiveness be sincere and with a contrite heart... he will do it.MAY GOD BLESS YOU
I myself am a minister. Dear I do not judge yourself or the man involved. Both of you seem concerned individuals otherwise you would not have posted your message.

PERSONALLY I would advise that you look into establishing your relationship with your husband.

It is difficult for all people to find and be loved, and sometimes these things happen. I typically believe you should get in touch with your innate loving nature.

Do not be concerned about small opinions of unloving souls. Everyone is human. Your pastor is not a Demon.
He is a living breathing man. I am a single minister and being so. honestly dear congregations expect you to be so perfect that sometimes its sickening.

Many condemn whatever it is you could be doing. These people are the real hypocrites. The word Hypocrite means to act.

I think personally as a minister, and knowing the pressures other try to condemn. For example I am a single minister.

I'm not allowed to date congregants. I cant go enjoy a beer down the pub. Heaven forbid, some hypocrite there may see me, and judge me. So I ask you this is it wrong for me to date?...

I believe not. Yet certain morals and ethics are involved.
Learn and grow from your experiences.

The man seems immoral for cheating on his wife. But lets all get a firm grip on reality. How many people daily cheat on their partners.?

This is real life. Not a wishy washy game. If all sin is immeasurable how to we measure the sin.

Sin is flesh it is man. It is part of life. Honestly...

I think alot of Christians need to grow up and realise the facts about life. That life is no fairy tale. But if we use the bible as a guide we cannot go wrong.

You are not going to hell dear. No little more than any other "sinner here" we all fall short of the glory of god.

I congratulate you dear for posting this. It is a good thing. It shows character. The majority of the "Judge" hide in the dark their sins.

I would not call them my brother at at.

Christians nedd to learn to love one another as well as god.

Too many Christians I observe outside my ministry are more than too happy to lie in wait and attack others for their lives.

I ask all of you here "Who has not Sinned"

I do, thank God. Otherwise I wouldn't be a man serving God. Judgemental Christians are the worst.

Good Luck Dear, and God Bless.

Your Minister obviously has needed love, as for yourself.
First of all, please ignore these people who are judgmental and don't know what they are talking about. If you have accepted Christ, you are a child of God and because of this, he loves you regardless of what you do. First of all, read Roman's 10:9. If you have done as this scriptures tells you to do then you won't go to hell. First pray and ask God for forgiveness and ask that he help you in resisting this man. Both of you have made mistakes and sinned against God's Word. Now it is time to turn this around. Change or block your number so that he can't call you. If you do not have the strength to end it while in the church, you need to leave this particular church. You also have the option of reporting him to the organization who oversees the church as a whole. Also check out the website www.thehopeofsurvivors.com. It is an awesome website for victims of pastoral sexual abuse. You are the victim, not him.
i am going through the same thing... I am having an affair with my pastor, we're both married... I hate myself for it, but we're both so miserable in our marriges.. The truth is we both married the wrong people, not that that's an excuse for our affair.. I want to stop, I've tried ignoring him, but i cant. I wake up and go to sleep thinking about him, he has told me in several diffrent occasions, that he wants us to be together, but it seems impossible. Sometimes is it in church while he's preaching and i just want to run away. Not counting how much I have on my hands... If this ever gets out, its my life, family his family his life the church everyone.. Ive thought about running away, just picking up and leaving one day.... I dont know what to do.. I dont want to be with my husband... I am not in love with him, he's cold, never made me feel wanted, we got married in such a rush, looking back i didnt make the right choice... i feel you pain
I was in the same boat. My pastor and I was had a 1 year affair and just resently we've broken it off. although, i'm still very attracted to him, I had to stop (WE) had to stop. i felt so convicted. when in church i would start to think about him sexual and visualize him touching me and me him. but yet i call myself a christian. I ask God to take the desire away. and he has. It's just some days i still find myself thinking about him. Yes, we are still friends and we are very aware that the attraction still lingers. but we don't won't to miss God either. Trust me it's not easy, i still love him, but i know it will hurt too many people if we were ever found out. so we got out of it without anyone getting hurt. and we walk around like it never happen. so God can deliver you if you want him too. You have to have a made up mind. I love my pastor, and i he loves me, and we love each other enough not to bring shame to our families. so it was fun and exciting, something we were both missing in our own lifes. He's married, I''m not. but yet we fulfilled each others need. But i love my pastor, and I don't wont to be a stumbling block for him and he me. so be encourage, that this to shall pass. just be strong in your walk with the Lord. repent and keep it moving.
I was on the other end of this situation. My wife was involved with my friend, and pastor while I was on his staff. It did not end well for us. Rumors started within the church in early 1996, which my wife denied and I believed her because there was no real evidence. We ended up leaving the church where I had been attending for thirty years with our pastor and his family and started fresh in another church. Our children were the same ages and we spent family time together as we tried to move on from the loss of friends we had experienced. Eventually our now ex-pastor and his wife began to have marital issues and divorced about a year later. I tried to continue to be his friend because I saw him as somewhat of a victim because of the rumors and subsequant problems in his personal life. About three years later my wife decided to be honest with me about the emotional and sexual relationship she had been involved in with this pastor/friend. It has now been ten years since I have come to understand the depth of their betrayel and deception of their spouses and church family. I have to be honest, I will never have the ability to fully trust or love people (even supposedly safe people within the church) again. This reality is difficult to live with because we are called to love one another by our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
In these difficult times we are being betrayed by secular Wall Street investment firms and politicians at all levels of government. The one place that needs to be free from the disonesty and betrayal by our leaders is in the Church. Our Great Hope is only to be found in the Gospel of Jesus Christ. When pastors become entangled in sin, especially sin that betrays sacred vows, there is little left to fully trust in. My heart breaks for you because like all sin that entangles our lives there is no way to get out unscathed. Pray and ask for forgiveness, end the affair and "Go and sin no more". God Bless You.
fast, pray and ask for forgiveness. As God for the strenght to walk away.
what happened to all the spiritual folks. Let he that is spiritual "Restore". Saints, let pray not judge.
I am, was, in the same situation. we were both Alpha Dogs, female and male. we stop having relations, but emotionally we were still there. and we would lash out at each other. we have broken this thing many times over. and then we try to put it back together again. only to broke it again, and again. this time i don't think it fixable. i said something to him. my alpha female came out and he as me not to write, or contact him again. now mind you i am a member of his church. but this time i think i'm going to grant his wish. it's time to move on. we have hurt each other so many times with our tongue. and theirs no coming back from that. so i'm confuse, don't even know where to go from here. i'm no longer covered. and i have to explain to my kids why i don't attend the church anymore after 16 years. our relationship only last for 1 year and even then we had our problems. we have never seen eye to eye even before the relationship, and how and why we became intimate is beyond me, but he came on to me. but now it's over theres know going back it's to painful to even be friends.
I am a elder and my wife is an elder also. She is dating my pastor. I have confronted him and her ,but they both lied . So I investagated I check her email , and found out it was so. I tried to talk to an elder in the church . He went and told a member of the church. It split the church up. Most of all it didn't stop anything. He came aganst me ,and talks to my wife , and meets for sex. What I'm trying to say is GET OUT OF IT NOW.Iam sure God has brought you from a long way. Please don't be led to a reprobate mind. God has so much more for you. Pray for your pastor. But GET OUT OF THAT CHURCH NOW AND STAY AWAY. You have to stay away from the very thing that will cause you to sin . May God forgive , restore, uplift, and bless you.
My Heart goes out to you. I've been there. We are so quick to judge. We all want to be Loved by someone, but just so happened its your Pastar. As I read others comments I ask you not to fault yourself. For me it started with the love of Christ the hunger to help others. My Pastar knew of my desire to help others. We both were Married. My marrage was fine but his was rockie. I would listen to his concern in his marrage and felt his pain, to make a long story short it went on for almost 5yrs. How & why no one will never understand. The shame will always be on the woman not the extraordinary man with the extraordinary gift. In or out of Church it happen. God forgave a SINNER on a cross hell forgive you and I. If you do nothingels be true to Christ, your true heart and mind. Talk to Him, tell him what and how you feel. He will bring about a change. Yes he will.
Let me say to you and to all who posted here. If you went to a therapist and that therapist engaged in any type of sexual or romantic behavior with you the therapist would be committing a violation, punishable by law. The reality is that it is a violation of the fiduciary trust when a member of the clergy crosses the line with a parishioner. Married or not, and whether the woman is married or not - it doesn't matter. Ministers are in positions of spiritual authority and it is THEIR obligation to maintain appropriate boundaries. The kind of power imbalance psyhologically and spiritually that exists between you and him, mean that your consent is not really valid consent. This is NOT an affair - this is Clergy Sexual Abuse. Women go to their ministers for spiritual guidance and feel this is someone they can trust. Because he represents God and the authority of the church, when he pays special attention to you, it can feel very special to you. But often, clergy like him, have done this before and will do it again and again. They are often narcissitice and use scipture innapropriately to keep the woman silent. YOu can find an excellent article on the if you google it - It is called "Why It is Not an Affair." by Rev Patrician Liberty. You were vulnerable, he took advantage of that and of feelings of transferrence that are often there because of their position. He has misused his power. Usually, after a long period of "grooming" you - so that you lose your moral compass. People need to be aware that clergy sexual abuse is very common. Unfortunatly blaming the victim is also common. I dont' care if a parishioner gets naked and dances on the minister's des, he is still the one responsible to maintain boundaries. I suggest your forgive yourself for having not been armed with good information to know that you have been sexually abused. It is NOT an affair. I would suggest you report it - and remember, just because you have confused feelings including what often feels like love, does not make it your fault. People have a lot of feelings for the clergy and clergy have been trained to be aware that this can make women vulnerable to their grooming One thing I can assure you from personal experience, is that he's done this before, most likely, and will do it again - these type of individuals will tire of the woman after a while and go on to grrom another woman. This is very sad and can traumatize women - there is a great website called Advocate Web,... I highly recommend it. All of that said, now that you will need strenght and support to stop. God loves and forgives us for all if we are saved. That isn't the issue here. Please, get some help -
hey, i think i know this ho
This is a plot for you to be destroyed.. but God is able to restore your soul. You really can not be concerned with Your Pastor, God will take care of him. My heart is concerned for you, know that God loves you and His desire is to always restore and bring you to a place of freedom in Him. You really do need to leave the Church. Know that your greatest sin is the one that is against God.. David knew this when He stated it is against you Alone God I have Sinned.. and He asked for a new Heart in Psalms 51. My prayer for you is that a clean heart is created in you. That God once again lead you to a place of truth. It is good you feel really bad over the situation. But now it is time for you to be restored and turn back to God.. PS God knew this would happen, you did not surprize Him... My question to you is what are yor going to do about it today.. God created you to walk in a destiny in Him. Sometimes in life some of our greatest fails can turn into powerful victory if we start making right choices. If you care to commit you can write to at Wilsons77@juno.com. Trust in the Lord and lean not onto your know understanding...
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As a pastors wife may I say that I understand that Pastors are human and have the same struggles as anyone else. What breaks my heart is that what you and this man are doing has the potential to destroy so many lives and families. It does not require prayer and fasting to get a clear word from God on this one. Repent means to turn in the other direction so Leave the church. Get a new phone number and seek some marital counselling and prayer counselling.
things like this should not happen in the house of God i will not judge as for me the house of the lord is the only safe place on earth if it is defiled were will we go to.anyway there are congregation of the died.chose ye this day which congregation to belong wither the died or the living were christ is lord. My advise for you is to repent and never go back again there is no excuss in heaven you have your bible to learn from.dont read it upside down sin is sin when confesed should stop,is not an excuss that you dont love your husband we should seek the face of the lord before marrying,the bible say flee from youthfull lust if you dont keep your self before marriage it is hard to keep it after young singles your body is God temple keep it up so that after marriage you will not end up dislikeing your husband.sister i pray the lord to give you understanding on how to come out of this.remain bessed
M I'm not ratting you out for the churches sake not for you or him happy trails. you know what you need to do. Not judging you but you need to stop. go to another church. get help. we are not close but i'll help you. think of how this would affect others. i know this is not your first affair and btw give up the diet drugs.
I know where you have beend doing this. If I know you can bet others know. the more you feed this the worse it will get. stop it. I can't even bear to look at either one of you. M jusl leave before you hurt yourself and others and what about her? their kids? give it up .
Please just stop. I know where this has happened. just stop it if I know who else has seen you? think about this think it through. just stop. M just leave
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M if you want to play the harlot why not pick someone else? You don't realize the damage you can cause. Our church nearly closed its doors once. would you want to be part of that if it happened thaat someone who wiill rat you out discovers your secret trysts with b? we were once friends but this is not vindictive M not out to get you. please see reason and he needs help serious help but he is a very stubborn fool like you. M you love the Lord don't trade what you have for this fool. r
Hey, have you ever stopped to consider the enormous hurt you are inflicting on your husband and your pastors wife? My husband cheated on me and without excuse......just for the pleasure of not getting caught. Let me tell you when this is exposed and it will be, things like this are never hidden you will experience hell on earth and you will end up destroying not only your own life but even those you didn't even think were watching. People know about this............don't be stupid! If you think his wife doesn't know..........get a grip, she knows but she just doesn't know what to do about it because she still loves her husband. And I need to remind you he is HER husband, not yours......hands off sleezzzy! Your husband deserves alot better than you ..............TRASH!
WHAT YOU AND YOUR PASTOR ARE DOING IS WRONG. NOTHING THAT GOD WOULDN'T FORGIVE YOU FOR BUT IT IS STILL WRONG! IF YOU REALLY WANT IT TO BE OVER, HERE IS A SUGGESTON; TELL YOUR HUSBAND! TELL THE TRUTH AND SHAME THE DEVIL. ONCE THE AFFAIR IS BROUGHT TO LIGHT YOU WILL SEE OW QUICK THE DEVIL LEAVES YOU ALONE. SATAN ONLY HAS POWER OVER YOU WHEN YOU KEEP SECRETS. GOD BLESS YOU.
My sister in christ" your sins has been forgiven before this affair started. I am a pastors wife and its
not always easy when satan sends the adulterous spirit in to corrupt the man of God. The bible says a
man that finds a wife finds a good thing!! your not his wife! understand this his wife is trusting and believing that her husband is faithful and he isnt! plead the blood of jesus and tell the devil he can no
longer use you to destory this man of Gods marriage! If and when you tell this man what the word of God says leave and praise God like never
before! may the holyspirit led you into His glory.
I will be praying against this spirit. pray and ask God
what His will is for your marriage. Be faithful to God
so you can here Him say well done thy good and faithful servant!!!!!
Repent to God. Revert to Islam. Islam erases all previous sins. Lead a God-fearing life. Know that verily you shall meet Him one day.
LOL @ the "pastor" that wanted her to send pics to his email. hahaha

Look at how much hate the "Christians" have for each other. It's awesome! If anyone is going to burn in hell it's them.
M I know what it feels like to be rejected by your husband due to porn. Remember we talked about it? Please Please M stop! He will find another that s true enough. I sensed this in him the first time I shook his hand and looked into his eyes. He has problems and will most likely not stop but M you worked hard getting close to God don't let this man ruin this for you. He is using you and don't you dare turn that around , you know its a lie. You have feelings for him. He will take advantage of that. M please save yourself. Talk to your hubby, Work on your marriage and you know I thought my marriage had not hope and I feel somehow responisible for being a negative influence. Please return to Jesus and pray for B. Stop before it's too late. If you can't contain then at least find another lover . stay away from the pastor.
M not judging but why him? She probably knows because it's not the first time you know that women pick up on these things by nature just let this go. It won't be as hard as you think. Surrender all to God so He can heal the broken places in you. If you keep on with this it will only get worse. Things will get ugly. The shame becomes harder to bear not to mention seperation from your Jesus because of the hardness of your heart. He is faithful to forgive.
We know there are no winners. The payoff isn't worth it. B has done this before left his lover a a mess and never looked back if this gets out you be the one to pay not him. Read the prev posts from others don't hurt the Lord who is your true love or His bride the church. He will redeem you. Turn away from b. God is dealing with b stay away.
Let God restore what the locusts of your sin and or the sins of others have eaten! Stay a way from that fallen man. Get out of that church. Pray for God to bring you to a new assembly. Ask forgiveness.

Joel:12 That is why the Lord says,
“Turn to me now, while there is time.
Give me your hearts.
Come with fasting, weeping, and mourning.
13 Don’t tear your clothing in your grief,
but tear your hearts instead.”
Return to the Lord your God,
for he is merciful and compassionate,
slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love.
He is eager to relent and not punish.
14 Who knows? Perhaps he will give you a reprieve,
sending you a blessing instead of this curse.
Perhaps you will be able to offer grain and wine
to the Lord your God as before.
M what would you say if I told you your best friend MM suspected? What would you say if I let you know people have been saying things? Happy trails M. Tell B to watch it. Know that I had nothing to do with it. MM may tell K. I want you to know it is not me. You think others don't know? M???? YOUR ARE BY FAR THE DUMBEST WOMAN I've ever met. Don't let this fool B ruin you he is not worth it return to you true love Jesus. Oh and just so you know I saw him with another. yes ma'am! I DID. Hapyy Trails sweetheart cause you are done! AND Don't you dare come to me!
M you are not the only one. He is already moving on. He has lied to you. PPL are seeing right through your facade. MM wants you to talke with her and that is best. I can't help you. K is smart enough the keep her enimies close. If she leaves it won't be because of you but all t he others. I know the bs hes fed you. You are married you both love your spouses but are unsatsifed bla bla bla.
I'm sorry to hear that you have made a mistake. most of the people that have been giving advice sound like they dont have a true understanding of the word of God. The bible tells us that the wages for our sin is death. This doesn't mean that just because you have made a mistake as a christian you have lost your salvation. However, you do need to ask for fogiveness because you are on a path that leads only to destruction. So do your yourself a favor, ask for forgiveness and turn from your sin. Because the word also tells us that the gift of God is eternal life. good luck, i will be praying for you!
Just repent and recommit your life to the Lord and he will forgive you.
Okay, you need to tell your husband what you have done. He then should be able to decide whether or not he desires to stay married. You secondly need to really examine your heart and examine what it really means to be a follower of Jesus Christ.

For all of you reacting...please do not forget that we all have sins that grately offend God, and Jesus took it all on Himself. If we believe that and live for Jesus and love Him and Love ourself and love others, we are heading in the correct direction. Jesus said, you will know them by their fruits.

Please also do not judge the Church based on one preacher or many preachers. It is better to place your Trust in Jesus rather than men!

Let Jesus be your Mirror! Let the Word Judge this situation. Lady...I offer you the best. Repent and turn from your sins...Get some accountability. You also need to contact the Pastors wife and let her know what is going on. Let the Pastor have the first chance, but if I were you, I would go to the Elders of your church and let them know as well.

Get some help with your sex problems. Why do you feel you need to be controled by this Pastor, what does that say about you. It tells me that you are not a healthy person. I pray and believe that you can be!

Jesus can over come anything!
Just run before it's too late. if it's not too late already. this will devastate the church and your community as well as your family. Stop run and get help... the pastor knows that it's wrong and he knows how to get help... it he is smart he will do it before it's to late... if it not too late already. find out about soul ties.
You are not alone. You are experiencing clergy sexual abuse/misconduct. Words like “adultery,” “affair,” “relationship,” etc., typically take the forefront when an adult is abused. Let’s be clear: You are not having an affair with your pastor. These are improper words to describe what happens in this type of situation. The “relationship” between a pastor and his congregant (or counselor/counselee, etc.) is NOT an “affair”—it is ABUSE. Due to the imbalance of power in the relationship between Pastor/Congregant (Teacher/Student, Counselor/Counselee, etc.), there can be no mutual consent to any type of intimate behavior or sexual activity. In fact, a woman who has been victimized in the past (either during her childhood or in other ways) may find that she is, in effect, virtually UNABLE to WITHHOLD consent. She may feel, due to circumstances, that she is not free to refuse any unwanted sexual advances. In reality, she may be subconsciously re-enacting her earlier abuse (by someone else) in the situation with the pastor, especially if the pastor is much older than she is and if he is not someone she would ever be attracted to if it were not for his power, age and authority over her. Pastoral sexual abuse doesn’t always occur due to transference. Sometimes it happens simply because the pastor is a sexual predator. The abuse is more than just a physical or emotional abuse. When a pastor (or elder or anyone seen as a spiritual leader in the church) betrays his sacred trust, it is spiritual abuse as well, spiritual adultery, if you will. Do some research on CLERGY SEXUAL ABUSE start here thehopeofsurvivors.com
Do not tell your husband just get out of the relationship. You will lose everything. He will lose nothing.
i too have met a married pastor we started out as friends he persuited me and i fell for him quickly i came to relize that this was ust a fling for him while he professed to only love me and tell me iam his woman and future wife. (iam single) he claimed he did not want his wife anymore and that he has been wanting a woman just like me, he even asked to marry me and he is still married, after a while his wife saw my business card with my picture and all business info on it he said he quickly took it away and destroyed it. also she has found things on the computer and if she ever checks his tx and emails she will know her husband is interested in another woman. i have come to my senses quick u see i was vanurable and i feel he said all the right things for me to believe, it sounded so good at first with all the promises cards flowers and etc. but reality set in and told me that this is wrong this man belongs to someone else. before reality set in he came and visited me and because we had talked about not being intimate with each other just enjoying the company he sure was trying hard to get in my cookies. any way a few weeks later when wife found out who knows what he started to be distant and telling me about he could loose his church, wellmy thought was he knew all that before he went out to seek me. he found me and didi not give up. and only reason he gave up now is because i told him i could not be in his life and to work out whatever problem he has at home. but i also relized that he was thinking of self and did not consider how this wwhole thing has affected me. now my trust is messed up and i cant trust no man. i dont go to his church and iam glad he lives in another state. i have asked for forgiveness from god, and i have learned a valuable lesson. but if the wife ever ask me to be truthful i will, but iam not volunteering any info. i have moved on with my life anf hope to never meet another man like that because he had me almost convinced. in the end he will reap what he sewed. and i know there will be consequences for my behaviour aswell. but him being a man of god that speaks against all that should have known better. iam no angel about this and i just wanted to say that i got out before it went any further. and i dont ever want to be the other woman for no man. its not worth loosing ur relationship with god. god said he will be there for you and i believe that. and no iam not going to hell i believ in jesus he has already paid the price for my sin and anyone elses sins, just believe and trust in the lord iam saved by grace and salvation is free. it has been given to me and no man can take it from me. be blessed sisters and brothers. ps remember we all have fallen short so dont be so judgemental because you dont sit on no thrown and ur no king, only god.
pray to god to forgive you. and pray for your pastor.take your husbant to church, or get out as soon as you can. good luck
omg are u serious... omg omg omg omg
well I didnt think I would have sex with another man but I did...and then did it again,with the same man, I told him it was wrong so now we do other things.
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5 Steps to your breakthrough:

1. Be honest with yourself before God, it takes two people to commit adultery. Fasting and prayer wont help the heart that doesnt want to change. Repent!

2. Be honest with your husband, he is probably aware and if he isn't then I wonder where his heart is apart from work.

3. Find a Bible believing and PRACTICING church FAST with a (female) Christian counsellor, if the counsellor is male -NEVER do sessions alone!

4. Take time to reflect. Your family is now in jeopardy because of your actions, not to mention your own soul. Marriage is a sacred covenant and must be treated as such.

5. Dont give up, Jesus didnt die on the cross in vain. Commit your ways fully to the Lord, He is willing to bring you out, if you're willing to come out!
the fact u came out looking 4advices mnz a lot,God knows your heart bt also the devil knows,what ill advice u is 2 go 2 pastor tell him u cant do this anymore,and plz seek proffesional help. pray so hard.may the Lord help u b4 its 2 late.
Its hard to leave!!!
who am i to judge these people.The bible says , judge not less ye be judge. I am also a victim of a pastor who is separated from his wife and now dating me ,a singles and a member of his church, we got involved intimately, i confide in my best girlfriend ,she run ahead of me and tell the Head pastor ,as i am writing now it is a big issue in the church and with others. The pastor was stripped of or denoted of his position and moved out of Parish.

SLANDERING AND GOSSIPS ARE ON US.Iam afraid to go back to church i loved the lord ,and is as guilty as the pastor. the congregant turned their backs on him and helpin me through restoration.but what about him?,Who is there for him, surprise!the victim is , i am helping him to come into true repentance and restoration. I WAS TOLD BY THE HEAD PASTOR NOT TO COMMUNICATE WITH HIM. God want me to help him the relationship is over but our true godly friendship is marvelous. comment if u can hard time am going through with my sisters and brother pray for me y'all. gods love
Please visit this web site. It will help you. Hope For Survivors. You are not the only one. Others share your experience and your struggle. I understand as many others will when you read their stories.
This is spirtual incest this is your spirtual father and it is illegal in the eyes of God. I blame him more than you because he is your spirtual father assigned to feed you spiritually ... My prayer is that God gives you the strength to stop this and that you ask God to forgive you and heal and restore your marriage.
you must just stop and never do it again. you are in control of what you allow your self to do or be involved with. you are suppose to be in a one man one woman relationship with your husband not your pastor. i tell you this if it came down to it your pastor will never leave his wife or family for you. i hate to tell you this but he is USING YOU FOR HIS OWN SEXUAL GRATIFICATION and you are allowing yourself to be used. HOW MUCH DO YOU LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/FAMILY DEPENDS ON HOW YOU BEHAVE ...and now you are behaving unbecomingly of a christian but a SINNER. YOU CAN STOP...JUST STOP AND DONT EVER DO IT AGAIN, FIND ANOTHER CHURCH THAT TEACHES THE BIBLE AND A PASTOR WHO LIVES THE WORD AND NOT JUST PRETENDS. I NOT PASSING JUDGEMENT ON YOU BUT IF YOU DONT YOU WILL PAY A TERRIBLE PRICE MY SISTER. I CAN GIVE YOU SCRIPTURE BUT YOU KNOW WHAT IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO...JUST DO IT....JESUS IS STILL STANDING AT THE DOOR OF YOUR HEART WAITHING FOR YOU TO REPENT AND TURN FROM YOUR WICKED WAY.
GO IN PEACE MY SISTER
i kinda have the same problem but with me i think its just i have feelings for my pastor. i dont really have the yearning to act on it i just find her to be an attractive woman. im a whole lot younger and i have kind of taken her up as my second mom. i really dont have intentions of acting on my fellings as she is married, older than me, and she is too good of a person. i just find her attractive (she is the type of woman i like) physically and as a person. IS this wrong to feel this way and please how can i change it.
keep having orgasms!!!! they are the best!!! although you are paying a high pice. your salvations is at stake, and you may loose your family, and your prayers are hindered....God forgives even those who think are in control are filthy ragsss......yep thats right......God loves you anyway.....but remember hurting others is realy bad
Who am I to judge.. you should seek counselling and go to a next church... Your pastor is using and you are blilnd that you cant see straight
tell ur pastor that your not looking for that and that he needs to go on with with his life and you live yours so you should move or just switch churches
I believe it's God who is leading you to seek help. For me I know God knows your heart though men will look at the appearance of this whole situation. Be encouraged my sister God still loves you and WILL I EMPHAISE WILL HELP YOU. I have read people's earlier comments but one thing I have learnt is that it so easy to advise on something you have never experienced just like the best footballers are the ones in the parvillion, they will tell the person in the pitch where to pass the ball and how to soccer. Fear not I will say to you. Being a christian I will remind you of the woman caught in aldultery and she run to Jesus, He asked though who wanted to stone her and were condeming her to raise a hand aganist her if they have never done this! but none did. Some were high priests(highly religiouse.g. pastors). But Jesus seeing no one he told this lady that she is forgiven. I don't permit what is going on but I would advise you to go to Jesus he will send you help how I frankly don't know but I know he will. When praying also pray for your Pastor he too needs help. Sow that seed and God will heal you both. It may not come today or soon but I rule out the fact that it can. I was told a testimony of a young lady who loved having sex with several men but she kept praying and on this beautiful day the Lord told her that if you try to sleep with someone who is not your husband they will fail to get a ejaculation. She tried to sleep with 17 men to date but they have all failed to ejaculate. You the God that helped this lady will help you because now God has surrounded her with a protection to never get into that situation again.She is now happy and on fire for the Lord ready to join ministry and preaching to people like you bound by sexual desires beyond our control.
God bless you

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