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I would really like some advice as to why i do what i do, i am married and have been cheating on my husband with the pastor of my church who is also married, i have tried to ignore my pastor\\\'s advances and cut it off but i sometimes feel obligated to do it,not to mention i am also attracted to him, i know it is wrong and have tried to walk the other way many times, but he call me and sometimes approaches me at church, i don\\\'t want to go to hell, i have prayed and fasted about this and i know i have to make a chose but why is it so hard to resist this man and walk away, please help me understand

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you don't have to walk away from this man, you both can walked together- straight to hell. what is it to understand you are just flat foot wrong and that is what it is. got it, now you just keep on walking.
I wonder how your pastor can stand up and preach after being such a hypocrite.
You wont go to hell because you walk away from him. He's blind leaading another blind fool (you). I mean that with tough love sis. Don't let him use his position to keep you in his gripps and feeling guilty. Those Catholic priests that rape young boys and girls made their victims feel guilty if they resisted them. by the way, your pastor is a demon!!!
Your pastor is a demon!!!! you need to get him out of your life before he starts blocking your blessings. by they way, you're probably not the only one....go take an HIV/AIDS exam like yesterday. Good luck sis.
Now you know I am not judging you or your pastor but you should have some shame.. to be straight forward it appears you are going to church to commit adultry (saying it very nicely) instead of hearing and learning about God's word. Who in the heck in their right mind anyway ..especially you ..can even sit in a church of God listening to a Man who call himself a Man of God having Sex with your happy getting your freak on Ass, how can you even listen to him .. oh i get it .. he preaching about .. what you are will be doing in Bed.. ? OH well Satan is just as busy .. well my advice is to get yourself together find you are real church and not a orgie temple .. if he doing you .. who else do you believe he is doing and don't say no one .. and if you out there doing another man . who is your husband out there doing and it's peeps like you wonder and complain about HIV .. get a grip keep those panties up or put some on .. and step to God right ..
Here is som real good advice... Get a book called surving an affair most christian bookstore will get it for you ... Ask God for forgivenss and Turn from you ways... maybe got a different church. The temptation is so great because the fall will be greater.
this is going to blow up literally... i advise you to leave thy church and seek counseling... as for thy pastor he shall have to answer to the man above... never nice to play around with the lords name, as this is sinning at it's worse...

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you are a ho, u should be on the streets selling yourself on sundays than in church..you would make more money too.
hmmmm, i know where you are at. i know that my pastor's wife wants to be with someone else. our pastor is the dearest sweetest most gentle man, and i feel sorry for him, because i am in the same boat without a hubby who's interested in me.
it's not like he's intentionally looking for someone else............he's just lonely and locked into this marriage cuz god says so. he keeps trying, and honestly, i hate seeing the man try so hard, when i know she's into someone else. it's all so sad. and i don't think we can judge any one else's situations. only god can see our hearts, and know our weaknesses, and hear our cries.
UMMMMM DIS IS EXACTLY WHY I DONT LIKE TO GO TO CHURCH.PEOPLE IN THE DAMN CHURCH HOUSE IS FAKE AS HELL.YOU SUPPOSE TO PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH.DONT TELL ME NOT TO HAVE SEX BEFORE A MARRIAGE OR HAVE AN AFFAIR WHEN THE PASTORS DIRTY ASS IS DOING THE SAME THING.THAT SOME DAMN BULLSHIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
give up religion and enjoy the sex. Sinfully sinless sex is the best.
and what's up with the admin? Did he write the bible? New English Motha Fuka
HYPOCRACY AT IT'S BEST
These situations occur when people are led by their emotions, it's far more than just lust. It's lonliness, attraction, and selfishness... and the only thing that matters is how "I feel", "I am lonely", "I don't feel needed or wanted in my marriage." I,I,I,...this is a dangerous thing...we must not be led by our emotions and when we stop thinking of others we are in trouble as well. Christians can't afford to become selfish. God forgives adultery so ask for his forgiveness, but don't travel that road again. Your pastor needed your prayers not your body. Seek another church...and how were you able to sit in the congregation and not feel like the worst person in the world? A conscience is a good thing.
I wont judge you, but you know it's wrong and it's not the way the church is supposed to function. The thing is, this happens all over the place. It's not just you having this trouble. There are women that are going through this and they know it's wrong but they do it. The problem is the fact that he gets up in front of the congregation and condemn such things. His punishment from God is coming and it will be much greater than yours.
i disagree with so may of the above comments slagging off churches because of this lady's issue. I go to a fantastic Elim Pentecostal Church and we are not perfect, but we are certainly a church of people that really love and obey God to the best of our ability. At the end of the day if you are a TRUE, committed, all-the-way Christian then you couldn't commit adultery in your consicence. If you are a Christian it is a lifestyle and God is number 1 - therefore you couldn't hurt Him by doing that. You are clearly back sliding - if you ever gave your heart to Jesus, and the same goes for your pastor. Sorry but that's what the Bible tells me! And I'm not judging, that's not my job. But I'm saying it how it is. If you love God you couldn't do that. We all make mistakes and sin, but there is deliberate sin and undeliberate sin. This is deliberate sin. BUT not all churches are like this. REAL churches go for God all the way and God moves amazingingly through them, for them and with them. They're the REAL churches. Lady, get soem help and give your heart to Jesus and WALK AWAY FROM THIS PASTOR! He too needs to walk away and get himself sorted with God! Harsh words but I say it how it is - which is what the Bible tells me to do.
From what I hear, it is the religiously educated that should embrace someone like you, in her time of need, however, as usual, the church going folk cast judgement when it is their GOD who should judge, not them.
NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO JUDGE YOU OR HIM. THE PEOPLE ABOVE WHO DO, ARE THE TRUE HYPOCRITES. CALLING THEMSELVES PEOPLE OF GOD BUT LOOKING DOWN ON YOU WHEN YOU ARE ONLY HUMAN AND NEED THEIR LOVE AND UNDERSTANDING. YOU, NOT THEM, ARE THE PERSON GOD/JESUS WOULD CHOSE TO STAND BY AND LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY. AS FOR YOUR PASTOR, HE IS HUMAN TOO. A MAN WHO PUTS HIS CONGREGATION'S NEEDS ABOVE HIS OWN, WHO LISTENS AND ABSORBS THE WOES AND COMPLAINTS OF HYPOCRITES LIKE THOSE ABOVE, YET IS ALLOWED NO SUCH OUTLET FOR HIMSELF. IT IS A FACT THAT 80% OF PASTORS LEAVE THE PROFESSION EARLY DUE TO EMOTIONAL BURN OUT FROM DEALING WITH THE LIKES OF THOSE ABOVE, AND IF HE IS NOT FINDING ANY COMPASSION OR NURTURING AT HOME WITH HIS WIFE (WHO IS ALSO ONLY HUMAN) IT IS UNDERSTANDABLE THAT HE MAY FALL IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE WHO OFFERS HIM THOSE THINGS WHICH HE ALWAYS DENIES HIMSELF.
I think we should just pray for these people and ask God to open there eyes to just what it is although i believe its insercurity witcch is caused by guilt or arrogance either way they ve allowed the enemy to have his way by not dealing with thier thoughts properly the way God says to. I think if they decided to allow God in he would minerster to them just were they went wrong and could help someone eles down the road. Im sure this is not the first time and its not the last its important that we all be honest for God to get the victory out of this. when the soldier had his ear cut offf by peter Jesus healed his ear and the words he used were "even this". I imagine he's saying the same thing.
This is spiritual witchcraft at its finest. I would bet my bottom dollar that you were unhappy in your marriage. Always remember: One can never fall under the spell of a seducer when he/she is content. You were an uncovered sheep wandering... Unfortunately, you wandered into the arms of the very Shepard that was suppose to protect you. Run quickly, young lady! Your soul is on the line. The only refuge for you at this point is an initmate relationship with our Savior. Jesus Christ. The pastor's lot is being prepared unless he repents. The judgment of such a leader is clearly illustrated in Jeremiah the 23rd chapter. I will be praying that the both of you come into sincere repentance and restore your hearts to God.
Hello my Sister in Chirst, I am a pastor myself and I am not going to judge you. The devil is very deceiving and he is a big time liar! My prayer is that you get out of this situation before it gets worse as soon as possible. You are not only cheating on your husband, but you are hurting and cheating on God. My suggestion to you, Sis', is to get in God's presence and stay there. Read Romans 6, Colossion 3 and Galatians 5. The Psalmist wrote in Psalms 119... "I have hid thy Word in my heart that I might not sin against God." A pastor should be going after God's heart, and not after his own fleshly desires... Jeremiah 3:15 says, "God will appoint over you shepherds after HIS own heart, who will shepherd you wisely and prudently." Take heed to God's Word, and following it... follow Christ, and walk in holiness... "Be holy, for Jesus is holy." You can't serve God and the devil, Sis... Totally surrender to the Lord, repent and turn from your evil ways, and the Lord will be merciful unto your soul and forgive you of sins.
is very horrible for you to have sex wit your pastor pls leave the church go somewhere else and confess your sins.is too bad.
As a man of GOD, he should no better. as a follower of CHRIST, you should know better... the bible say THOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTRY. What exempts you and your pastor from this commandment... we all sin and fall short, but we don't have to continue to do the things we don't want to do..... GOD says he will be your perfect strength in your weakness...IF you want him to strengthen you he will do just that..read ROMANS 7; STARTING AT THE 14 VERSE..Ask God for forgiveness be sincere and with a contrite heart... he will do it.MAY GOD BLESS YOU
I myself am a minister. Dear I do not judge yourself or the man involved. Both of you seem concerned individuals otherwise you would not have posted your message.

PERSONALLY I would advise that you look into establishing your relationship with your husband.

It is difficult for all people to find and be loved, and sometimes these things happen. I typically believe you should get in touch with your innate loving nature.

Do not be concerned about small opinions of unloving souls. Everyone is human. Your pastor is not a Demon.
He is a living breathing man. I am a single minister and being so. honestly dear congregations expect you to be so perfect that sometimes its sickening.

Many condemn whatever it is you could be doing. These people are the real hypocrites. The word Hypocrite means to act.

I think personally as a minister, and knowing the pressures other try to condemn. For example I am a single minister.

I'm not allowed to date congregants. I cant go enjoy a beer down the pub. Heaven forbid, some hypocrite there may see me, and judge me. So I ask you this is it wrong for me to date?...

I believe not. Yet certain morals and ethics are involved.
Learn and grow from your experiences.

The man seems immoral for cheating on his wife. But lets all get a firm grip on reality. How many people daily cheat on their partners.?

This is real life. Not a wishy washy game. If all sin is immeasurable how to we measure the sin.

Sin is flesh it is man. It is part of life. Honestly...

I think alot of Christians need to grow up and realise the facts about life. That life is no fairy tale. But if we use the bible as a guide we cannot go wrong.

You are not going to hell dear. No little more than any other "sinner here" we all fall short of the glory of god.

I congratulate you dear for posting this. It is a good thing. It shows character. The majority of the "Judge" hide in the dark their sins.

I would not call them my brother at at.

Christians nedd to learn to love one another as well as god.

Too many Christians I observe outside my ministry are more than too happy to lie in wait and attack others for their lives.

I ask all of you here "Who has not Sinned"

I do, thank God. Otherwise I wouldn't be a man serving God. Judgemental Christians are the worst.

Good Luck Dear, and God Bless.

Your Minister obviously has needed love, as for yourself.
First of all, please ignore these people who are judgmental and don't know what they are talking about. If you have accepted Christ, you are a child of God and because of this, he loves you regardless of what you do. First of all, read Roman's 10:9. If you have done as this scriptures tells you to do then you won't go to hell. First pray and ask God for forgiveness and ask that he help you in resisting this man. Both of you have made mistakes and sinned against God's Word. Now it is time to turn this around. Change or block your number so that he can't call you. If you do not have the strength to end it while in the church, you need to leave this particular church. You also have the option of reporting him to the organization who oversees the church as a whole. Also check out the website www.thehopeofsurvivors.com. It is an awesome website for victims of pastoral sexual abuse. You are the victim, not him.
i am going through the same thing... I am having an affair with my pastor, we're both married... I hate myself for it, but we're both so miserable in our marriges.. The truth is we both married the wrong people, not that that's an excuse for our affair.. I want to stop, I've tried ignoring him, but i cant. I wake up and go to sleep thinking about him, he has told me in several diffrent occasions, that he wants us to be together, but it seems impossible. Sometimes is it in church while he's preaching and i just want to run away. Not counting how much I have on my hands... If this ever gets out, its my life, family his family his life the church everyone.. Ive thought about running away, just picking up and leaving one day.... I dont know what to do.. I dont want to be with my husband... I am not in love with him, he's cold, never made me feel wanted, we got married in such a rush, looking back i didnt make the right choice... i feel you pain
I was in the same boat. My pastor and I was had a 1 year affair and just resently we've broken it off. although, i'm still very attracted to him, I had to stop (WE) had to stop. i felt so convicted. when in church i would start to think about him sexual and visualize him touching me and me him. but yet i call myself a christian. I ask God to take the desire away. and he has. It's just some days i still find myself thinking about him. Yes, we are still friends and we are very aware that the attraction still lingers. but we don't won't to miss God either. Trust me it's not easy, i still love him, but i know it will hurt too many people if we were ever found out. so we got out of it without anyone getting hurt. and we walk around like it never happen. so God can deliver you if you want him too. You have to have a made up mind. I love my pastor, and i he loves me, and we love each other enough not to bring shame to our families. so it was fun and exciting, something we were both missing in our own lifes. He's married, I''m not. but yet we fulfilled each others need. But i love my pastor, and I don't wont to be a stumbling block for him and he me. so be encourage, that this to shall pass. just be strong in your walk with the Lord. repent and keep it moving.
I was on the other end of this situation. My wife was involved with my friend, and pastor while I was on his staff. It did not end well for us. Rumors started within the church in early 1996, which my wife denied and I believed her because there was no real evidence. We ended up leaving the church where I had been attending for thirty years with our pastor and his family and started fresh in another church. Our children were the same ages and we spent family time together as we tried to move on from the loss of friends we had experienced. Eventually our now ex-pastor and his wife began to have marital issues and divorced about a year later. I tried to continue to be his friend because I saw him as somewhat of a victim because of the rumors and subsequant problems in his personal life. About three years later my wife decided to be honest with me about the emotional and sexual relationship she had been involved in with this pastor/friend. It has now been ten years since I have come to understand the depth of their betrayel and deception of their spouses and church family. I have to be honest, I will never have the ability to fully trust or love people (even supposedly safe people within the church) again. This reality is difficult to live with because we are called to love one another by our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
In these difficult times we are being betrayed by secular Wall Street investment firms and politicians at all levels of government. The one place that needs to be free from the disonesty and betrayal by our leaders is in the Church. Our Great Hope is only to be found in the Gospel of Jesus Christ. When pastors become entangled in sin, especially sin that betrays sacred vows, there is little left to fully trust in. My heart breaks for you because like all sin that entangles our lives there is no way to get out unscathed. Pray and ask for forgiveness, end the affair and "Go and sin no more". God Bless You.
fast, pray and ask for forgiveness. As God for the strenght to walk away.
what happened to all the spiritual folks. Let he that is spiritual "Restore". Saints, let pray not judge.
I am, was, in the same situation. we were both Alpha Dogs, female and male. we stop having relations, but emotionally we were still there. and we would lash out at each other. we have broken this thing many times over. and then we try to put it back together again. only to broke it again, and again. this time i don't think it fixable. i said something to him. my alpha female came out and he as me not to write, or contact him again. now mind you i am a member of his church. but this time i think i'm going to grant his wish. it's time to move on. we have hurt each other so many times with our tongue. and theirs no coming back from that. so i'm confuse, don't even know where to go from here. i'm no longer covered. and i have to explain to my kids why i don't attend the church anymore after 16 years. our relationship only last for 1 year and even then we had our problems. we have never seen eye to eye even before the relationship, and how and why we became intimate is beyond me, but he came on to me. but now it's over theres know going back it's to painful to even be friends.
I am a elder and my wife is an elder also. She is dating my pastor. I have confronted him and her ,but they both lied . So I investagated I check her email , and found out it was so. I tried to talk to an elder in the church . He went and told a member of the church. It split the church up. Most of all it didn't stop anything. He came aganst me ,and talks to my wife , and meets for sex. What I'm trying to say is GET OUT OF IT NOW.Iam sure God has brought you from a long way. Please don't be led to a reprobate mind. God has so much more for you. Pray for your pastor. But GET OUT OF THAT CHURCH NOW AND STAY AWAY. You have to stay away from the very thing that will cause you to sin . May God forgive , restore, uplift, and bless you.
My Heart goes out to you. I've been there. We are so quick to judge. We all want to be Loved by someone, but just so happened its your Pastar. As I read others comments I ask you not to fault yourself. For me it started with the love of Christ the hunger to help others. My Pastar knew of my desire to help others. We both were Married. My marrage was fine but his was rockie. I would listen to his concern in his marrage and felt his pain, to make a long story short it went on for almost 5yrs. How & why no one will never understand. The shame will always be on the woman not the extraordinary man with the extraordinary gift. In or out of Church it happen. God forgave a SINNER on a cross hell forgive you and I. If you do nothingels be true to Christ, your true heart and mind. Talk to Him, tell him what and how you feel. He will bring about a change. Yes he will.
Let me say to you and to all who posted here. If you went to a therapist and that therapist engaged in any type of sexual or romantic behavior with you the therapist would be committing a violation, punishable by law. The reality is that it is a violation of the fiduciary trust when a member of the clergy crosses the line with a parishioner. Married or not, and whether the woman is married or not - it doesn't matter. Ministers are in positions of spiritual authority and it is THEIR obligation to maintain appropriate boundaries. The kind of power imbalance psyhologically and spiritually that exists between you and him, mean that your consent is not really valid consent. This is NOT an affair - this is Clergy Sexual Abuse. Women go to their ministers for spiritual guidance and feel this is someone they can trust. Because he represents God and the authority of the church, when he pays special attention to you, it can feel very special to you. But often, clergy like him, have done this before and will do it again and again. They are often narcissitice and use scipture innapropriately to keep the woman silent. YOu can find an excellent article on the if you google it - It is called "Why It is Not an Affair." by Rev Patrician Liberty. You were vulnerable, he took advantage of that and of feelings of transferrence that are often there because of their position. He has misused his power. Usually, after a long period of "grooming" you - so that you lose your moral compass. People need to be aware that clergy sexual abuse is very common. Unfortunatly blaming the victim is also common. I dont' care if a parishioner gets naked and dances on the minister's des, he is still the one responsible to maintain boundaries. I suggest your forgive yourself for having not been armed with good information to know that you have been sexually abused. It is NOT an affair. I would suggest you report it - and remember, just because you have confused feelings including what often feels like love, does not make it your fault. People have a lot of feelings for the clergy and clergy have been trained to be aware that this can make women vulnerable to their grooming One thing I can assure you from personal experience, is that he's done this before, most likely, and will do it again - these type of individuals will tire of the woman after a while and go on to grrom another woman. This is very sad and can traumatize women - there is a great website called Advocate Web,... I highly recommend it. All of that said, now that you will need strenght and support to stop. God loves and forgives us for all if we are saved. That isn't the issue here. Please, get some help -
hey, i think i know this ho
This is a plot for you to be destroyed.. but God is able to restore your soul. You really can not be concerned with Your Pastor, God will take care of him. My heart is concerned for you, know that God loves you and His desire is to always restore and bring you to a place of freedom in Him. You really do need to leave the Church. Know that your greatest sin is the one that is against God.. David knew this when He stated it is against you Alone God I have Sinned.. and He asked for a new Heart in Psalms 51. My prayer for you is that a clean heart is created in you. That God once again lead you to a place of truth. It is good you feel really bad over the situation. But now it is time for you to be restored and turn back to God.. PS God knew this would happen, you did not surprize Him... My question to you is what are yor going to do about it today.. God created you to walk in a destiny in Him. Sometimes in life some of our greatest fails can turn into powerful victory if we start making right choices. If you care to commit you can write to at Wilsons77@juno.com. Trust in the Lord and lean not onto your know understanding...
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As a pastors wife may I say that I understand that Pastors are human and have the same struggles as anyone else. What breaks my heart is that what you and this man are doing has the potential to destroy so many lives and families. It does not require prayer and fasting to get a clear word from God on this one. Repent means to turn in the other direction so Leave the church. Get a new phone number and seek some marital counselling and prayer counselling.
things like this should not happen in the house of God i will not judge as for me the house of the lord is the only safe place on earth if it is defiled were will we go to.anyway there are congregation of the died.chose ye this day which congregation to belong wither the died or the living were christ is lord. My advise for you is to repent and never go back again there is no excuss in heaven you have your bible to learn from.dont read it upside down sin is sin when confesed should stop,is not an excuss that you dont love your husband we should seek the face of the lord before marrying,the bible say flee from youthfull lust if you dont keep your self before marriage it is hard to keep it after young singles your body is God temple keep it up so that after marriage you will not end up dislikeing your husband.sister i pray the lord to give you understanding on how to come out of this.remain bessed
M I'm not ratting you out for the churches sake not for you or him happy trails. you know what you need to do. Not judging you but you need to stop. go to another church. get help. we are not close but i'll help you. think of how this would affect others. i know this is not your first affair and btw give up the diet drugs.
I know where you have beend doing this. If I know you can bet others know. the more you feed this the worse it will get. stop it. I can't even bear to look at either one of you. M jusl leave before you hurt yourself and others and what about her? their kids? give it up .
Please just stop. I know where this has happened. just stop it if I know who else has seen you? think about this think it through. just stop. M just leave
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M if you want to play the harlot why not pick someone else? You don't realize the damage you can cause. Our church nearly closed its doors once. would you want to be part of that if it happened thaat someone who wiill rat you out discovers your secret trysts with b? we were once friends but this is not vindictive M not out to get you. please see reason and he needs help serious help but he is a very stubborn fool like you. M you love the Lord don't trade what you have for this fool. r
Hey, have you ever stopped to consider the enormous hurt you are inflicting on your husband and your pastors wife? My husband cheated on me and without excuse......just for the pleasure of not getting caught. Let me tell you when this is exposed and it will be, things like this are never hidden you will experience hell on earth and you will end up destroying not only your own life but even those you didn't even think were watching. People know about this............don't be stupid! If you think his wife doesn't know..........get a grip, she knows but she just doesn't know what to do about it because she still loves her husband. And I need to remind you he is HER husband, not yours......hands off sleezzzy! Your husband deserves alot better than you ..............TRASH!
WHAT YOU AND YOUR PASTOR ARE DOING IS WRONG. NOTHING THAT GOD WOULDN'T FORGIVE YOU FOR BUT IT IS STILL WRONG! IF YOU REALLY WANT IT TO BE OVER, HERE IS A SUGGESTON; TELL YOUR HUSBAND! TELL THE TRUTH AND SHAME THE DEVIL. ONCE THE AFFAIR IS BROUGHT TO LIGHT YOU WILL SEE OW QUICK THE DEVIL LEAVES YOU ALONE. SATAN ONLY HAS POWER OVER YOU WHEN YOU KEEP SECRETS. GOD BLESS YOU.
My sister in christ" your sins has been forgiven before this affair started. I am a pastors wife and its
not always easy when satan sends the adulterous spirit in to corrupt the man of God. The bible says a
man that finds a wife finds a good thing!! your not his wife! understand this his wife is trusting and believing that her husband is faithful and he isnt! plead the blood of jesus and tell the devil he can no
longer use you to destory this man of Gods marriage! If and when you tell this man what the word of God says leave and praise God like never
before! may the holyspirit led you into His glory.
I will be praying against this spirit. pray and ask God
what His will is for your marriage. Be faithful to God
so you can here Him say well done thy good and faithful servant!!!!!
Repent to God. Revert to Islam. Islam erases all previous sins. Lead a God-fearing life. Know that verily you shall meet Him one day.
LOL @ the "pastor" that wanted her to send pics to his email. hahaha

Look at how much hate the "Christians" have for each other. It's awesome! If anyone is going to burn in hell it's them.
M I know what it feels like to be rejected by your husband due to porn. Remember we talked about it? Please Please M stop! He will find another that s true enough. I sensed this in him the first time I shook his hand and looked into his eyes. He has problems and will most likely not stop but M you worked hard getting close to God don't let this man ruin this for you. He is using you and don't you dare turn that around , you know its a lie. You have feelings for him. He will take advantage of that. M please save yourself. Talk to your hubby, Work on your marriage and you know I thought my marriage had not hope and I feel somehow responisible for being a negative influence. Please return to Jesus and pray for B. Stop before it's too late. If you can't contain then at least find another lover . stay away from the pastor.
M not judging but why him? She probably knows because it's not the first time you know that women pick up on these things by nature just let this go. It won't be as hard as you think. Surrender all to God so He can heal the broken places in you. If you keep on with this it will only get worse. Things will get ugly. The shame becomes harder to bear not to mention seperation from your Jesus because of the hardness of your heart. He is faithful to forgive.
We know there are no winners. The payoff isn't worth it. B has done this before left his lover a a mess and never looked back if this gets out you be the one to pay not him. Read the prev posts from others don't hurt the Lord who is your true love or His bride the church. He will redeem you. Turn away from b. God is dealing with b stay away.
Let God restore what the locusts of your sin and or the sins of others have eaten! Stay a way from that fallen man. Get out of that church. Pray for God to bring you to a new assembly. Ask forgiveness.

Joel:12 That is why the Lord says,
“Turn to me now, while there is time.
Give me your hearts.
Come with fasting, weeping, and mourning.
13 Don’t tear your clothing in your grief,
but tear your hearts instead.”
Return to the Lord your God,
for he is merciful and compassionate,
slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love.
He is eager to relent and not punish.
14 Who knows? Perhaps he will give you a reprieve,
sending you a blessing instead of this curse.
Perhaps you will be able to offer grain and wine
to the Lord your God as before.
M what would you say if I told you your best friend MM suspected? What would you say if I let you know people have been saying things? Happy trails M. Tell B to watch it. Know that I had nothing to do with it. MM may tell K. I want you to know it is not me. You think others don't know? M???? YOUR ARE BY FAR THE DUMBEST WOMAN I've ever met. Don't let this fool B ruin you he is not worth it return to you true love Jesus. Oh and just so you know I saw him with another. yes ma'am! I DID. Hapyy Trails sweetheart cause you are done! AND Don't you dare come to me!
M you are not the only one. He is already moving on. He has lied to you. PPL are seeing right through your facade. MM wants you to talke with her and that is best. I can't help you. K is smart enough the keep her enimies close. If she leaves it won't be because of you but all t he others. I know the bs hes fed you. You are married you both love your spouses but are unsatsifed bla bla bla.
I'm sorry to hear that you have made a mistake. most of the people that have been giving advice sound like they dont have a true understanding of the word of God. The bible tells us that the wages for our sin is death. This doesn't mean that just because you have made a mistake as a christian you have lost your salvation. However, you do need to ask for fogiveness because you are on a path that leads only to destruction. So do your yourself a favor, ask for forgiveness and turn from your sin. Because the word also tells us that the gift of God is eternal life. good luck, i will be praying for you!
Just repent and recommit your life to the Lord and he will forgive you.
Okay, you need to tell your husband what you have done. He then should be able to decide whether or not he desires to stay married. You secondly need to really examine your heart and examine what it really means to be a follower of Jesus Christ.

For all of you reacting...please do not forget that we all have sins that grately offend God, and Jesus took it all on Himself. If we believe that and live for Jesus and love Him and Love ourself and love others, we are heading in the correct direction. Jesus said, you will know them by their fruits.

Please also do not judge the Church based on one preacher or many preachers. It is better to place your Trust in Jesus rather than men!

Let Jesus be your Mirror! Let the Word Judge this situation. Lady...I offer you the best. Repent and turn from your sins...Get some accountability. You also need to contact the Pastors wife and let her know what is going on. Let the Pastor have the first chance, but if I were you, I would go to the Elders of your church and let them know as well.

Get some help with your sex problems. Why do you feel you need to be controled by this Pastor, what does that say about you. It tells me that you are not a healthy person. I pray and believe that you can be!

Jesus can over come anything!
Just run before it's too late. if it's not too late already. this will devastate the church and your community as well as your family. Stop run and get help... the pastor knows that it's wrong and he knows how to get help... it he is smart he will do it before it's to late... if it not too late already. find out about soul ties.
You are not alone. You are experiencing clergy sexual abuse/misconduct. Words like “adultery,” “affair,” “relationship,” etc., typically take the forefront when an adult is abused. Let’s be clear: You are not having an affair with your pastor. These are improper words to describe what happens in this type of situation. The “relationship” between a pastor and his congregant (or counselor/counselee, etc.) is NOT an “affair”—it is ABUSE. Due to the imbalance of power in the relationship between Pastor/Congregant (Teacher/Student, Counselor/Counselee, etc.), there can be no mutual consent to any type of intimate behavior or sexual activity. In fact, a woman who has been victimized in the past (either during her childhood or in other ways) may find that she is, in effect, virtually UNABLE to WITHHOLD consent. She may feel, due to circumstances, that she is not free to refuse any unwanted sexual advances. In reality, she may be subconsciously re-enacting her earlier abuse (by someone else) in the situation with the pastor, especially if the pastor is much older than she is and if he is not someone she would ever be attracted to if it were not for his power, age and authority over her. Pastoral sexual abuse doesn’t always occur due to transference. Sometimes it happens simply because the pastor is a sexual predator. The abuse is more than just a physical or emotional abuse. When a pastor (or elder or anyone seen as a spiritual leader in the church) betrays his sacred trust, it is spiritual abuse as well, spiritual adultery, if you will. Do some research on CLERGY SEXUAL ABUSE start here thehopeofsurvivors.com
Do not tell your husband just get out of the relationship. You will lose everything. He will lose nothing.
i too have met a married pastor we started out as friends he persuited me and i fell for him quickly i came to relize that this was ust a fling for him while he professed to only love me and tell me iam his woman and future wife. (iam single) he claimed he did not want his wife anymore and that he has been wanting a woman just like me, he even asked to marry me and he is still married, after a while his wife saw my business card with my picture and all business info on it he said he quickly took it away and destroyed it. also she has found things on the computer and if she ever checks his tx and emails she will know her husband is interested in another woman. i have come to my senses quick u see i was vanurable and i feel he said all the right things for me to believe, it sounded so good at first with all the promises cards flowers and etc. but reality set in and told me that this is wrong this man belongs to someone else. before reality set in he came and visited me and because we had talked about not being intimate with each other just enjoying the company he sure was trying hard to get in my cookies. any way a few weeks later when wife found out who knows what he started to be distant and telling me about he could loose his church, wellmy thought was he knew all that before he went out to seek me. he found me and didi not give up. and only reason he gave up now is because i told him i could not be in his life and to work out whatever problem he has at home. but i also relized that he was thinking of self and did not consider how this wwhole thing has affected me. now my trust is messed up and i cant trust no man. i dont go to his church and iam glad he lives in another state. i have asked for forgiveness from god, and i have learned a valuable lesson. but if the wife ever ask me to be truthful i will, but iam not volunteering any info. i have moved on with my life anf hope to never meet another man like that because he had me almost convinced. in the end he will reap what he sewed. and i know there will be consequences for my behaviour aswell. but him being a man of god that speaks against all that should have known better. iam no angel about this and i just wanted to say that i got out before it went any further. and i dont ever want to be the other woman for no man. its not worth loosing ur relationship with god. god said he will be there for you and i believe that. and no iam not going to hell i believ in jesus he has already paid the price for my sin and anyone elses sins, just believe and trust in the lord iam saved by grace and salvation is free. it has been given to me and no man can take it from me. be blessed sisters and brothers. ps remember we all have fallen short so dont be so judgemental because you dont sit on no thrown and ur no king, only god.
pray to god to forgive you. and pray for your pastor.take your husbant to church, or get out as soon as you can. good luck
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well I didnt think I would have sex with another man but I did...and then did it again,with the same man, I told him it was wrong so now we do other things.
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5 Steps to your breakthrough:

1. Be honest with yourself before God, it takes two people to commit adultery. Fasting and prayer wont help the heart that doesnt want to change. Repent!

2. Be honest with your husband, he is probably aware and if he isn't then I wonder where his heart is apart from work.

3. Find a Bible believing and PRACTICING church FAST with a (female) Christian counsellor, if the counsellor is male -NEVER do sessions alone!

4. Take time to reflect. Your family is now in jeopardy because of your actions, not to mention your own soul. Marriage is a sacred covenant and must be treated as such.

5. Dont give up, Jesus didnt die on the cross in vain. Commit your ways fully to the Lord, He is willing to bring you out, if you're willing to come out!
the fact u came out looking 4advices mnz a lot,God knows your heart bt also the devil knows,what ill advice u is 2 go 2 pastor tell him u cant do this anymore,and plz seek proffesional help. pray so hard.may the Lord help u b4 its 2 late.
Its hard to leave!!!
who am i to judge these people.The bible says , judge not less ye be judge. I am also a victim of a pastor who is separated from his wife and now dating me ,a singles and a member of his church, we got involved intimately, i confide in my best girlfriend ,she run ahead of me and tell the Head pastor ,as i am writing now it is a big issue in the church and with others. The pastor was stripped of or denoted of his position and moved out of Parish.

SLANDERING AND GOSSIPS ARE ON US.Iam afraid to go back to church i loved the lord ,and is as guilty as the pastor. the congregant turned their backs on him and helpin me through restoration.but what about him?,Who is there for him, surprise!the victim is , i am helping him to come into true repentance and restoration. I WAS TOLD BY THE HEAD PASTOR NOT TO COMMUNICATE WITH HIM. God want me to help him the relationship is over but our true godly friendship is marvelous. comment if u can hard time am going through with my sisters and brother pray for me y'all. gods love
Hi Sister, First of all obviously you wanted some help with this, so let me see if i can provide some. First remember as the word states"You have all of these gifts in an earthen vessel" You are the same person you were before you got saved accept now when you do bad things the Holy Ghost convicts you. Second you don't have to do all that you are doing to stop, all you actually must do is have a trully repentant (change) in your heart and stop. You are both human first, spirit second, you fell long before you had sex. Therefore ask God to help you get deliverd from this, mean it and he will, but keep asking him to change your heart because your mind and your flesh are at war now.
Be Blessed
Please visit this web site. It will help you. Hope For Survivors. You are not the only one. Others share your experience and your struggle. I understand as many others will when you read their stories.
This is spirtual incest this is your spirtual father and it is illegal in the eyes of God. I blame him more than you because he is your spirtual father assigned to feed you spiritually ... My prayer is that God gives you the strength to stop this and that you ask God to forgive you and heal and restore your marriage.
you must just stop and never do it again. you are in control of what you allow your self to do or be involved with. you are suppose to be in a one man one woman relationship with your husband not your pastor. i tell you this if it came down to it your pastor will never leave his wife or family for you. i hate to tell you this but he is USING YOU FOR HIS OWN SEXUAL GRATIFICATION and you are allowing yourself to be used. HOW MUCH DO YOU LOVE YOUR HUSBAND/FAMILY DEPENDS ON HOW YOU BEHAVE ...and now you are behaving unbecomingly of a christian but a SINNER. YOU CAN STOP...JUST STOP AND DONT EVER DO IT AGAIN, FIND ANOTHER CHURCH THAT TEACHES THE BIBLE AND A PASTOR WHO LIVES THE WORD AND NOT JUST PRETENDS. I NOT PASSING JUDGEMENT ON YOU BUT IF YOU DONT YOU WILL PAY A TERRIBLE PRICE MY SISTER. I CAN GIVE YOU SCRIPTURE BUT YOU KNOW WHAT IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO...JUST DO IT....JESUS IS STILL STANDING AT THE DOOR OF YOUR HEART WAITHING FOR YOU TO REPENT AND TURN FROM YOUR WICKED WAY.
GO IN PEACE MY SISTER
i kinda have the same problem but with me i think its just i have feelings for my pastor. i dont really have the yearning to act on it i just find her to be an attractive woman. im a whole lot younger and i have kind of taken her up as my second mom. i really dont have intentions of acting on my fellings as she is married, older than me, and she is too good of a person. i just find her attractive (she is the type of woman i like) physically and as a person. IS this wrong to feel this way and please how can i change it.
keep having orgasms!!!! they are the best!!! although you are paying a high pice. your salvations is at stake, and you may loose your family, and your prayers are hindered....God forgives even those who think are in control are filthy ragsss......yep thats right......God loves you anyway.....but remember hurting others is realy bad
Who am I to judge.. you should seek counselling and go to a next church... Your pastor is using and you are blilnd that you cant see straight
tell ur pastor that your not looking for that and that he needs to go on with with his life and you live yours so you should move or just switch churches
I believe it's God who is leading you to seek help. For me I know God knows your heart though men will look at the appearance of this whole situation. Be encouraged my sister God still loves you and WILL I EMPHAISE WILL HELP YOU. I have read people's earlier comments but one thing I have learnt is that it so easy to advise on something you have never experienced just like the best footballers are the ones in the parvillion, they will tell the person in the pitch where to pass the ball and how to soccer. Fear not I will say to you. Being a christian I will remind you of the woman caught in aldultery and she run to Jesus, He asked though who wanted to stone her and were condeming her to raise a hand aganist her if they have never done this! but none did. Some were high priests(highly religiouse.g. pastors). But Jesus seeing no one he told this lady that she is forgiven. I don't permit what is going on but I would advise you to go to Jesus he will send you help how I frankly don't know but I know he will. When praying also pray for your Pastor he too needs help. Sow that seed and God will heal you both. It may not come today or soon but I rule out the fact that it can. I was told a testimony of a young lady who loved having sex with several men but she kept praying and on this beautiful day the Lord told her that if you try to sleep with someone who is not your husband they will fail to get a ejaculation. She tried to sleep with 17 men to date but they have all failed to ejaculate. You the God that helped this lady will help you because now God has surrounded her with a protection to never get into that situation again.She is now happy and on fire for the Lord ready to join ministry and preaching to people like you bound by sexual desires beyond our control.
God bless you
He lures you 2 bed with him by telling you that he has the key 2 heaven right? You know what sis? You have already brocken the 10 commandments because you are an adulter,wpgat i can advice u is to Run Run away from him n be commited 2 your husband and go and repent to the lord and you'll be 4gven.Good luck sis.nengojeff@yahoo.com,+254719120189
Any pastor married or not that sleeps with the parishners is committing sexual abuse. They are very manipulative people. Male pastors exploit weak, needy, vulnerable, females in their congregations that have experienced sexual abuse as a child. Because they are a therapist and have privy to their memebers most private and personal experiences, regarding their past, troubled marriages & etc. they are in a perfect position to exploit that vulnerability to their benefit. And as sick as it sounds,it is happenedning @ an alarming rate. The person of authority is always responsible for making sure the relationship does not cross the line, even when the women come on to them. But the reality is that in most pastor-parishner relationship are the aggressor. the women may not know this but they are victims. A clergy is one of the most trusted professions in the world. And becausse of that position, people follow them, and want to please them, even when they know the request is wrong and a sin. Sure there are some women that are just whores and want to sleep with the pastor. But it's the pastor's responsibility to make sure he does not violate the trust that God, the people,his called & chosen professsion has entrusted in him. If the women in a congregation would stand up & stop leting them devil convince them that they will be made out to be the villan, stand up and call a pator out that is a known womanizer, others would take heed & think twicce about having sex with their memebers.
When we have an issue that tugs at our hearts, thankfully that is the holy ghost in us trying to help us to have a change in our hearts and thinking. But everyone, please remember, God will not force you to do anything, but he will help you when you make the decision to do the thing that you know is right in the first place.
Ironically enough, before we find ourselves in these messes, we already know that we have the potential to be in them in the first place. I wont waste time trying to condem anyone here because Jesus death already set us free from that if we simply accept it. All I will say is that I pray for all of the parties involved here, that you recieve restoration, peace and deliverance. May God Bless and keep you.
I've been there- I understand. It is hard to resist b/c you see the Jesus in them and you want Jesus -- hard to explain if you haven't been there- You know what needs to be done. Cut it off! I did this and it devastated my church. I was so close to having an affair with the head leader in my church- but I cut it off. They church may not ever forgive me b/c I blew up his spot-- but guess what? I have peace inside. The man hates me, and so does hi family (who is also in the church) but its not worth it. The more you indulge in this, the harder it will get. Don't expect to be able to quit in one day, but STOP!!! you know better- when Jesus comes, you will give an account of your life to God. Ask Him to help you do what needs to be done and pray for me also, that I'd be healed b/c I needed to hear this as much as you.
asore no dea ewose wo gyea.i havent been there but i know it wont be essy .find a bible believing church,and get busy with God and your work.remember the devil finds work for the idle hand.u have to be strong,pray and ask God to make your husband who u want him to be and u what he wants you to be.so u can both be happy with each other.
I can say that I have also been in a situation somewhat like that...except that I never had any intimacy with my pastor...It is hard! Especially when you have established a relationship with him. I don't judge you because I did not like to be judged either...I know how it feels, it's like a battle that you can't seem to figure out how to defeat. I used to stay up all night in many ocassions thinking about how terrible I was because I was in the music group at church! I felt like the worst person on earth and I felt like I was dying little by little inside. Like you, I felt obligated many times and worst yet, I too developed feelings towards him! This happened for approximately 4 months and they were in fact the worst 4 months of my life because the desires of the flesh are temporary and what God offers is everlasting. Unfortuanately what happens in darkness soon or later comes out to the light...so, you need to put a stop to it even if is extremely hard...find some support...and I would most definetly suggest to tell your husband what has been going on...it's better if he finds out by you then by others. Trust me it happened to me!!! My husband found out...He is destroyed...he asked me why I didn't have courage enough to tell him. Thanks to my Lord Jesus Christ we are still together trying to work things out. Our relationship has made some good changes, and I feel free! I don't feel opressed like I use too, and I'm happy I walked away froy destruction! I will most definetly pray. Do the right thing please...and do not keep your mouth shut because just like you, other women in your congregation could be going through the same thing...trust me...I thought I was the only one...and little by little i've come to find out by the woman that he has also apprached that i'm not the first and most definately not the last! God Bless You! and whatever you do...don't take a permanent decision for a temporary situation. God Loves You and eventhough you might think He doesn't listen, He does. Be Strong an Courages!
Leave the church entirely. The pastor is sinful and a pathway to lustful sins for you.
its hard to think about but it happens.pastors are human therefore they too can sin and like others need more grace to stand sister do what you can because you surely can do something if you choose to.divine ability was given you when Christ came into your life.
I too confess, and have asked God for forgiving him and I
I thought I was the only one, but i LOVE GOD so much, and I am very attracted to my pastor, but love God more, and would like to be real before his wife, family, and congregation. I tried to blow this off on my own, but I know that only God can do this. I've also fasted and prayed, but it takes more.....
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One of the reasons you cannot walk away is because of soul ties. You feel that you love him; yet, because you have lain with him; you have been one in spirit; even though you are married to someone else. Many I have suggested counseling I agree. Situations like this destroy churches and families. Seen it happen; the wounding of this kind of betrayal is every deep. Please seek help and start looking for a new place of fellowship. The Lord will restore you; yet, you allow to forgive for this; as he heals you. You are both forgiven; you once you receive do what Jesus told the woman who was caught in the sin of adultery...go and sin no more.
Let's get it STRAIGHT He is NOT a Pastor - HE is an Adulterer doing a Pastor ACT - But a True Pastor passionately opposes such behavior and is governed by the Fear of God! He is what the bible describes as a Wolf in Sheep's Clothing.

You need to EXPOSE HIM, EXPOSE HIM, EXPOSE HIM! and if you dont dare - Tell us who he is WE will EXPOSE him!
Who ever is free of sin, cast the first stone, which I guaranty, non of you can cast it. But let's not forget that in order to receive forgiveness one must repent, confess and sin no more.
I was a co-pastor in a church with my former husband. He started committing mis-conduct without my knowlege with a member of my church. This went on for two years . When I found out I tried to stop it. The woman kept coming back stalking him or he would call her. It finally blew up he lost his job. He still had another chaplaincy position so he was not destitute when he left for her. He got into a church of another denomination and his pastor father married them in a big ceremony. The church thinks that he and this woman walk on water. I was left to pick up the pieces at the church. Many members left and recently I lost my job because they cannot afford to pay me any more. Any church I interview at I have to divulge what happened. It has been difficult for me to get another job. The entire community in which we live heard about the scandle. Now I have to run into them everywhere. Her children rarely see her. What I do know is that when clergy do this it is about power and it is unequal and a form of abuse. I know believe that more former husband was a narsissist. I do not believe that he was ever faithful to me. He is a very sick man who is two faced and very good and manipulating people. He is anything but a man of God. If you pastor is doing this with you he is very sick. I would be willing to guarentee you are not the only one. Run don't walk away. Get into counseling and seriously consider turning him in to the churches hierarcy. He is a very sick man for doing this with you. These people destroy many lives along with their churches.
my pastor got me pregnant and now is avoiding me.i am vunerable and confused and got trick by him. what should i do.please dont put me down i need your help.
I am going through a simmillar situation, The pastor of My congregation sexualy spoke to me in a conversation Me and my husband run away of that church but later we came back to fall again in the same problem this time I spoke to his mother that was part of the elders and his wife, The pastor kept of calling me and finally I fell for him, and now I am in love with him but we have not being able to have a relationship because of The Lord Jesus Christ that takes care of me, He has received severe punishment from the Lord sickness in his body and me too as well. I am asking the Lord to forgive me and I am trying to forgive about this sad and terrible experience in my life which has left me devastated bringing all kind of troubles in my life and health as well. The Lord punish those that He call his sons. Amen
The Bible says that nobody is good enough to get into heaven. We have all sinned. Each one of us has broken God's commandments--not one person is excepted. You have personally lied and committed other sins.

For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God. (Romans 3:23)

[L]et God be true, but every man a liar...( Romans 3:4)
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I'm going to tell you right now you need to leave that church. And find your self a new pastor. A real pastor because that brother is not preaching the word of god he is preaching sin within the confines of the church and god will strike him down and you do not want to be standing next to him when it happens. You need to confess to god..
one question -- does he have a big cock?
I am in the same position but by force he said he was helping me to find job i had no money so i realy tought i was going to get some help he told me to met him somewhere and to my suprize it was his home where i was rape by him and got pregnant i am so ashame to even tell anyone but i realy l nedd help feel like am going crazy
hi this sid you need gods knowledge sis..
whatever you have came across and heard about, advises and comments curses and hurting words, it is the seed you have planted.
don't just pray,fast, read bible and asking people around what to do, use your knowledge use your very strength and power.. for example if i put a cup of poison and a cup of water? you are now able to make a positive heaven going decision sis.. and if you are still seeking god let me tell you Halleluiah god is some where around you and waiting for you to take this mindful one step that can take you to to god...
god bless you and your family..
for any further assistance send me an e-mail chand.sidharth@gmail.com.
you cant stop because it is so wrong. We are always dominated by rules, Rules from our parents, from our government, and from our God. It feels good to break them sometimes why do you think teenagers rebel its exciting. Marriage gets very routine, routine is boring. When your bored you look for something or someone to do it doesnt always turn out to be the person you expect. I say if you can handle it enjoy. Becareful because guilt will eat you
I will be nice but frank, no one is m/aking u open ur legs if he was its rape not sex I would leave the church u are going to break up 2 familys and its not worth it, ur living in sin so is he. U bolth need to stay Away and repent god. Will forgive the sinners if they truly are sorry and repent
hello sis, I'm not going to say too much but you need to look at it this way. if you died this moment where would your soul go. you can't afford to delay. you may fancy him but what you're both doing is wrong. Cut the relationship off now make a stand, find another church and ask God for forgiveness. I say leave the church because if you stay you may continue to be tempted. Remember judgement day is around the corner. it could be all over for you before you know it. Don't waste any time deliberating over this CUT IT OFF NOW
cheers yemi
Tell the pastor to fuck you in the ass....that should take care of the problem
I think he felt like that also. Now he expects it from me. I keep telling myself we can have a relationship without I am a divorced woman who has been having an affair with a marries preacher for almost a year.We love each other very much. His divorce will be final this week. STILL that does not change the fact that it is SIN. I have been a Christian for almost ten years. For those ten years all I thought about was God. I was single for 8 years. Prayed for The Lord to send me someone. Don't know who sent him. I feel so guilty and ashamed. At first sex. I know I could, but I know he can't. I have tried to tell him how I feel many times. He listens but says nothing. He thinks when his divorce is final,everything will be fine. NOT! Sin is sin. I pray everyday that I'll be able to end it. I have not spent the last ten years of my life going to church almost everyday,and living for The Lord,to be dragged to HELL by a MAN! Whoever reads this please pray for me. My name is Di.
I am on the recieving end of mess like this, for I am the pastors wife, and this has happened to me over, and over, and over!! I despise and literally hate the women that sleeps with the married man forget that hes a pastor hes a married man, Im not going to dog the female this has happened to because Ill have you crying. As for the pastor he will rot in hell for hurting his wife and anyh kids (if any). Hoes will be hoes!!! #imBITTERasHELL
I am in the same boat. Though it has not started but both of us know that we are attracted to each other. We are both married and I'm the choir leader. I've had sexual dreams of him and I'm just fighting the urge, he calls me and then lingers on for me to just say something about it but I wouldn't.
Everyone is having life's problem, big enough for oneself. This is the problem for both of you and you both are aware of it. Why not pray to God and seek help. But you (both) are the one who can solve your own problem. come on! don't be a coward.
You'll need to walk a way from this man if you're cheating on on your husband and he's cheating on his wife if you both have slept together you really don't love your husband and he really does love his wife if you're cheating on either one you need to go to each other spouse and let them know
Give me the name and location of your pastor, I'll fix him up....
I'am a pastor myself, and I'am praying for you to be freed of this demonic trap. Judging the behavior is right for christians to do, without judging the person committing the behavior.
We must love the sinner but not the sin. This means that you must turn from this behavior immediately. If the rapture came right now what would happen to you??? I do not believe a true believer of Christ, fill with the Holy Ghost, would commit such acts. I do not believe that a pastor that was truly saved would committ such acts.
It is horrible that he would stand in the pulpit and open his mouth to God's people when he is committing adultery with one of the sheep that he peaching to. What in Heavens name could he be preaching. He needs to step down immediately and repent and let someone preach that is saved. Don't do this any longer! repent now! change churches immediately! change your telephone number and forbid him to contact you. If you are born of the Spirit you can do this because the Holy Spirit will do it through you. 1 cor. 4:13. Then seek counseling from pastors that husband and wife together counseling. Never seek counseling alone with a male pastor . Seek a husband and wife pastor team. God loves you and will forgive and restore you if you wanted it.
you and your pastor are both in the wrong.not only are you committing adultery(which is against the bible by the way) but you are also putting a good marriage(i hope it is) at risk. and your pastor is a MAJOR HYPOCRITE! don't waste your time on him. confess to your husband, find another church and move on with your life.
I have the same problem I am also sleeping with my Pastor. I know that it is so wrong but it is so hard to walk away from this man. This is something that I know that I have to pray to God as well as find another church home.
PLEASE SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE. CHANGE YOUR CHURCH. YOU DON'T NEED A CHURCH. YOUR PASTOR IS DESTROYING YOUR MARRIAGE. PLEASE PLEASE FIND A DIFFERENT CHURCH. YOU AND YOUR PASTOR ARE SETTING A BAD EXAMPLE TO SPIRITUAL CHRISTIANS.
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David has many wives, even kills to get one. So what does it matter that a man after God's own heart does this and is still loved. The bible is so messed up. I wonder about it sometimes. We all love to pick parts out to condemn. I feel sorry for this woman. This man is a hypocrite. So was David. Hmm. What do you all Christians think of this. There are so many examples of men of the bible with multiple wives. God still uses them as an illustration to get his messages through. To say a pastor and anyone else is above all this...so why wasn't David. Take the plank out of your own eye.
Get the hell out of there. If you do not want to ruin your marriage and your life then start over. Forgive yourself as God has forgiven you. Pray blessing over the situation and God will take care of it.
my wife found out about the pastor and i now all 3 of us get together but we go to a different church now
Its just biology. People are made to have sex. Is the sex good? But, I agree, this is a problem within the church. You need to leave it, or he does. He is a bit of a hypocrite (being a pastor) but he is just a guy. It the sex better than with your husband? If it is, that is hot. Good luck
I know how you feel, because I too was once in your situation. My advice to you is to cut all ties with him and leave that church. No phone conversations, no emailing, no texting, no visits. You and your pastor has develop a bond between one another that should never have develop. God loves you and your pastor but you must do the right thing. I will be praying for you both.....
I think the real answer is pray for those which are lost.Dont lose your Faith because the devil is here to decive the nation.
EVERY MAN HAS A NEGATIVE NUT THATS HARD TO UNTIE AND THAT WAS WHY GOD ASK US TO RUN AWAY FROM EVERY ATTRACTION OF THE DEVIL, HE DID NOT ASK US TO IMPLORE THE HELP OF THE HOLY SIPIRT THROUGH FASTING AND PRAYER. STEPS TO FOLLOW
1. WALK TO HIM AND TEL HIM A DAY IS COMING WHEN YOU WOULD BE EXPOSED(DONT THINK ITS A SECRET, SOMEONE ALREADY KNOWS).YOU ARE NOT WAITING TO BE THE NEXT DISCUSSION.
2. STOP ATTENDING THE CHURCH, ITS OBVIOUS GOD DOES NOT RESIDES THERE.
3.PURGE YOUR MIND OUT TO GOD AND ASK HIM HOW TO HAND ITS SPRING UP.
4. FIND A WOMAN OF gOD TO OPEN UP TO, THIS WOULD RELIEVE YOU OF THE GUILT AND FOLLOW HER INSTRUCTIONS
5.POSE THE SITUATION TO YOUR HUSBAND TELLING HIM YOU SUSPECT A FRIRND AND ASK FOR HIS OPINION AND JOKE IF IT WERE TO BE YOU WOULD HE KILL YOU. BECAUSE THE I THINK YOU HUSBAND ALREADY KNOWS ABOUT IT OR SUSPECT
NOTE THIS IS THE TIME TO STOP, CONSIDER THE SHAME, THE DISRUPTION OF THE CHURCH, AS I A PRESSMAN I KNOW IT WOULD MAKE A GOOD HEADLINES, YOUR HOME, DISGRACE TO THE FAMILIES. ABOVE ALL THE STIGMA.
to love a person is to think for the safe of the person you love,to pray for that person most especially he is GODS servant,leave that servant of GOD ask for the LORDS forgiveness of the sin both you and him had committed.pray or him that out of that sin that he committed,GOD will restore him and give him power to stand all over again,and pray that the holy spirit will fill him and empower him to totally humble himself to our LORD JESUS,and start serving HIM in spirit and in truth.this is the best way you can do,and you will go away from him to a place you will never see him anymore and ask the LORD JESUS HIS forgiveness and the in filling of the holy spirit for you to have a new life with him and ask HIM to lead you to a peacefull life full of HIS blessings and protection and make you a fruitful christian
it's one thing to be tempted, but it's another to act upon it! you've told on yourself to us, but you need to tell your husband..... if you really want to keep your marriage, honesty is the ONLY POLICY! walk away fro the manipulation of your pastor, walk away from that church bcuz you will never be able to clearly hear the voice of God bcuz you've been intimate with that pastor. you and your husband go somewhere else, and sit still in that church! do rush to do anything but sit still and listen to the voice of God. you must heal, your husband must heal, and every one involved must heal first, or else the prepetual cycle of manipulation will comtinue. I hope all your kids belong to your husband for your sake!
The advice given on this post is horrendous and judge mental! Jesus said, "He who is without sin, cast the first stone"! We all sin and fall short. Who are you people to tear this woman down when she is earnestly seeking counsel. Check yourselves before you start checking other people!

Sis, my advice is to confide in a woman of God that you trust. This way your secret is exposed and you are accountable to someone who can help steer you in the right direction. Ask God for forgiveness and to help you not give in to the temptation. Remove yourself from that environment and find a new church home.

Blessings,
Sister in Christ

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