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Sent to a friend I'm in love with my cousin... Haven't seen him in a long time, but apparently he's a favorite amongst the other members of the family as well... The sex is the best I've ever had and the love is fantabulous -------> Well if the rest of the jealous family stops sticking their fuckin' nose into all of our business... The bottom line is - well... hmm... Who does it hurt? Our love is real and ONLY OUR business right?...Anyway...
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- Who am I to judge you. Continue to follow your heart, as maybe he loves you in the same way.
- Go for it then. Why worry what others have to say? If it's true love, then be happy.
- Um well if thats your cousin ya'll just don't need to be together at all that shit is nasty and on top of that yall are first cousins!
- You just put your business on the web...and then asked folks to mind their own business. I'm sure your family can access the web to see what you've confessed. Don't be so contridicting. Either you want folks out or in? Obviously you have a cry for help if you have troulbe finding a man outside of your bloodline. I feel you have some deep routed issues you need to seek them and get closure.
- You are really naughty, you need to change ur man as soon as possible . That is not right.Please ,please make a move.
- i was in love with one of my cousins but we didn't let it get that far. All i can tell u is do what u do.
- Hunny,
Something is really wrong with you and you need to think about this do you really think its healthy behavor what you and your fam is doing right now, nothing good can come from it and you must keep in mind that this isn't just some guy. So when it over you still have to see this man so if I was you I would just have a little fun and protect myself so that no accidents happend...( you know what I mean) - well of course ya fam iz gonna b in yall business becuz dats ya cuzin n you fuckin em datz nasty & ya fam iz jus concerned about you and ya need to talk to them about it cuz maybe they can get u the professional help u need cuz best blieve u need it
- Professional Help, please.
- uh that shit is nasty now believe me my family is fine and i think my cousins are sexy but i would never in my life think of my cousins as another man and have sex with them. ur family doesn't have a right to have their nose in ur business but i think you should end this thing between u and ur cousin thats nasty. yaws kids gonna have a problem
- I GOT A COUSIN LIKE THAT GIRL IF YOU LOVE YOUR COUSIN THEN BE WITH HIM CANT NOBODY TELL YOU WHO TO LOVE.
- Do you realize that you are screwing your mother's nephew....YOUR COUSIN?
Why are you ignit ass folks encouraging this depraved, demented relationship? Love? PLEASE! There are millions of men in the world and this trife heffa loves her COUSIN? Exactly where are you from? Dem dere hills of Kentucky? WTF?
Folks like you are the reasons why abortion should remain totally LEGAL. - all i can say is ill. you just can't do that to yourself or to your family. girl you need a man that's not in your family
- im love my with my cousin and have been through the same thing, and i prey that one day we can be together. at the end of the day u cant help who u fall in love with, it aint that simple. its all well and good that people think it is sick and there entitled to ur opinion. but wehn u fall for someone u look past flaws and complications.its just how u feel.
- i love my cousin but she doesn't love me back. i've tried to kiss her but she just turns away in disgust. one time put my hand on her behind and she pushed me away. consider yourself lucky. i wish i had what you had.
- 1st cousins is ur mothers or father sisters child right ??? ............omg i will just say i couldn't do it .......u must leave in a small community or something ........
- im like that too im in love with my cousin but i say i dont care if he's 1st 2nd or 3rd cousin if your happy with him stay with him
- Geez, lay off, people!!! No one can controll who they fall in love with, so don't critecize others for somthing they can't controll!!!
This kind of reminds me of the 'gay marrige' issue. Person A tells Person B else they're gay, and they are immidiatly ridiculed for it. This just makes me stop and say "whaaaaaa?" because person B was totally fine with person B before...
Anyway, please don't ridicule, after all, wasn't this site designed to help people express their thoughts to somone without being punished or interogated?
And yes, I am in love with my cousin as well.
Signed,
the geek
PS: sorry about the long length. - Being in love with your cousin is probably going to be the worst kind of heart break you will ever feel. If you can stop... Stop now.. if you cant move to Alabma...lol
Although it has happened since the beginning of time, cousins having sex is considered to be
"taboo."
If I'm not mistaken, your bloodline is too close for you to have children and not a lot of states approve of a union between first cousins.
I don't think your family members are being nosey, I think they really are interested in how thoughts of
"incest" and other unfavorable issues will arise.
If they are asking enough to believe that something has been/is going on, you all must have made it pretty obvious that something's there.
Someone, somwhere IS going to hurt over you two being together, because it defies all that they know of God's law and man's law.
I really don't know what to tell you, because you seem to be interested in having this relationship with him at all costs.
If you haven't seen him in a long time, then it shows that you CAN do without him. Why not try to strengthen your will power and let what you had in the past remain there?
~ SL ~- Betta get your knees before you go straight to hell-who sleeps with their 1st cousin??? Trippin'.
- If it feels right go with it, love is so hard to find
these days. its a force thats hard to resist - it's a blood relative!!! give yourself a slap and get some much needed help.
- sick, sick, sick!!! its just wrong man, what self respecting person would do a thing like that?! theres a line and i can safely say you've crossed it in style.
- Truth of the matter is we can't help who we fall in love with. Moralistically you have to know whats right for both you and your family. Think about this if by chance you and your cousin concieve your child will more than likely have mental or physical issues, how would you feel knowing you knowingly caused something this serious that will effect your child for the rest of his/her natural life. I am not here to judge you just trying to enlighten you and make you see some things are just not meant to be.
- by the way you put it, it dosent sound like love. but if you truly care for each other and you believe then nothing is wrong. love who you want to love. :)
- Okay......ITS 100 PERCENT OKAY TO LOVE/MARRY YOU COUSINS.....INFACT IT IS BEING PRACTICED IN MANY WOLRD CULTURES. fIRST,,,,,,THE TABOO THAT YOU SHOULDNT LOVE YOUR COUSIN IS AMERICAN BULLSHIT. tHE CHANCE OF BIRTH DEFECTS IS VERY SLIM THAT GENERAL AND BESIDED THAT CHANCE IS INFLUENCED HIGHLY BY YOUR GENE POOL TO BEGIN WITH. so IT DOESNT EVEN MATTER CAUSE TWO UN-RELATED PEOPLE HAVE A BAD GENE POOL AND HAVE SAME PERCENT OF MISCARRIAGE OR GENETIC MUTATION. sO plzzzzzzz A REQUEST TO ALL AMERICANS...STOP BEING STUPID AND IGNORANT AND PLEASE LEARN ABOUT FACT BEFORE FORMING YOU INCREDICBLY RIDICULOUS STEREOTYPES. i MEAN EVEN CHARLES DARWIN...WHO YOU THINK WOULD KNOW ABOUT GENETIC MUTATIONS SINCE HE FORMULATED THE GENETIC EVOLUTIONARY THEORY....MARRIED HIS FIRST COUSIN AND DIDNT PERCIEVE ANYTHING INCESTUOUS ABOUT IT. i THINK AMERICANS JUST HAVE THIS DISEASE THAT PREVENTS THAT THEY LIKE TO THINK THEY ALWAYS RIGHT EVEN IF THEY HAVENT THE SLIGHTEST CLUE ABOUT WHAT THE HELL THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT.
- you obviously think its wrong or you wouldnt even be questioning it and YES IT IS WRONG! no matter how you look at it its incest, its an actual blood relative, SICK!
- Girl, I am curious to know areyou truely okay? that ain't love that is insainity. Get a physcological evaluation ASAP!!!!
- Everyone is forgetting how kings and queens kept the bloodlines in a long time ago. It may have been in diffrent times but they still did it, one could say we are more civilized but hey look at prince charles, he had to marry out of the blood line to replenish the gene pool. So I say if its what you truly want then you need to be ready for the riddicule because american society doesnt accept it.
- visit www.cousincouples.com
- To the person that typed in all CAPPS,
Thank you!!! I totally agree. People, we're not crazy, or diseased, or whatnot, we're in love.
Cousincouples is a great site. - first and foremost, youre not really sorry about the whole situation, tbcccc
- well dayum..... no comment
- where i come from, it's not really allowed, it's jus discouraged. imagine the sticky scenarios.. what we do in our culture, we seek advice, and follw rituals. now i know u in the US of A, but get councelling and be prepared for amything..
-ZimbabweThug- - that shit is crazy and nasty!
- There is nothing wrong with love between cousins. Only the ignorant object. They have no basis in science or the bible to forbid such a love.
- Are u trying to convince us or yurself?
- Dont have no babies!!!!!
- i think all Americans should retract their ill informed statements. They have no idea about this whole situation. The Text speakers are stupid kids who can't even spell and if they can't even do that who's to say they even know what they are talking about when it comes to cousins in love? God has no objection - love your cousin if you want to.
- AMEN!
- there is nothin wrong with loving your cousin. if your cousin is the one who you really want to be with, then don't listen to anything anyone else says and just follow your heart, and don't let anyone get in the way. Believe me i kno how it feels
- I read on the internet that that type of thing is hereditery...I mean just look at it this way if this wasn't you and it was your child who was in love with their sister or your niece or nephew your son or daughter was in love with and they began having a sexual realationship...would that be right. I know this is in the bible but this is wrong...I couldn't imagine being in love with anyone in my family and I have a decent looking family. I have a best friend who's grandfather slept with his own daughter and had a baby with her and now my best friend is in love with her cousin but they decided to end the cycle of family being with family. So even though it feels good now it will only hurt you in the end!
- Most of these people do not know what they are talking about. First, almost half of all the states in the US allow marriage between 1st cousins. And the states that do are not backward, hillbilly states either. Second, as for any possible children having any kind off physicial or metal retardation, studies have found that there is only a slightly elevated chance of a child born to 1st cousins having any problems, much less than in women over 40 having children. Albert Einstein's parents were cousins and he married a cousin as well. Charles Darwin and Queen Victoria were also born to parents that were cousins.
All that said, falling in love with your cousin is hard and you need to expect a long road ahead of you. I too am in love with one of my cousins and it is one of the hardest things I have had to deal with. We did not expect or plan this, but no one can help who they fall in love with. If you truely want to be with this man, you need to be prepared for the hard times ahead. You may have family that is unwilling to accept your relationship. And you need to think of what will happen if your relationship does not last.
Good luck. I wish you the very best. - If anyone really wants to know, or even has a strong opinion on cousin marriges (sp?) I suggest they visit www.cousincouples.com whether they think it's right, wrong, or just are wanting to know more. Many myths have come out of cousin marriges, and cousincouples.com displaces the false ones.
Good luck. - Well heck! If FIRST cousins are going to be in relationships with one another, why don't brothers and sisters do it, too.
Come to think about it, why don't fathers start dating their daughters and mothers their sons. what the hell, right?
~SL~ - wow. If you had any idea how it felt, you wouldn't say that. Do you realize that not everyone is like you? Just because you want to date your brother/sister/mother/father/son/daughter dosn't mean that other people want to. Don't critecize. You literally have no idea what you're talking about.
www.cousincouples.com
it's a good site. visit it. - were on the same track... me myself is also inlove with my first cousin... and i'm so condused what to do because i know that it's not possible but even thou i'm knowledgable of those things i can't help but to fall in love with Him... i don't care what people say...
kawoh - If you really love him, follow your feelings. But beware, the road is difficult.
- Oh you hurt me so bad
It started so perfect in my dreams.
Something God could only create
a union of both me and you on a special day.
You hurt me so bad
and you never will know.
So you treated me like a little kid but
I never understand why I wasn’t able stop thinking of you.
God, can you tell me why?
Now what once had been a lovely little child
that loved the world
must live with a heart that bleeds
But I hope I’ll see you soon coming to granny’s house.
We will talk about weather and it will hurt me and you won’t know (That is the end)
I say what I have to say:
You will never love me or be able to.
in my dreams Promises have been made and secrets been told
late nights have been spent in ecstasy
We had made love in a bed full of roses
For the universe to see
There has been no holding back from each other
Both of our minds were free
but it only seems like a real sick dream
I can't understand why you brought this pain into my life
Oh god can’t you tell me why?
You never gave me a reason to love you like that
I am going on by myself to survive this alone
I’ll maybe find back home some day.
But I hope I’ll see you soon coming to granny’s house (I hope you to come this way again).
You never gave me the reason to love you like that
We will talk about weather and it will hurt me and you won’t know (That is the end)
I say what I have to say:
You will never love me (No way no way no way) or be able to because I am a little child for you.
How could this be
We grew up together, but you always turned round to leave
Boy why don’t you know that you are my heart and soul
But I can't smash it all down, just to say something.
Together forever that's what we both said,
in my dreams.
I don’t know why life is so unfair?
I hope you come to me sometimes (Baby come to me).
You never gave me a reason to love me like I do
But I’ve got to say that you will never love me anyway (Cause you’re not able to)
I hope you will come to me again
You are my teacher and my friend (but I love you so bad)
When I look into your eyes I see the most beautiful ocean with
Burning fire in it,
which just comes to me.
But I cry cause you will never love me anyway (Cause you won’t be able to),
cause I love you my cuz. (oh cousin I can’t tell you how much.)
(i´ve written this because i am also in love with my cousin) - love who ever u want its your life you gotta be happy. people cant live your life for you.as long as u making the right decision and loving your cousin is not wrong. follow your heart girl let it guide you go get your man girl he's yours hold on to him dont let him go. loves is important. thats what counts
- Hi, i am 15 years old.
Please tell me what to do! I don´t know what to do. I love my cousin very much, but i am unable to say this to him, because i am worried if he would think i am sick or something like that.
We don´t see each other very often, but on the family-festival and these are the most beautiful days in my live.
Please answer me,
Nati - There is absolutely nothing wrong ith being inliove with your cousin. im from the Bahamas and Im madly in love with my cousin. i can't help the way i feel about him and i feel nothing for any man that i see or have had a relatioship with in the past. it is not a sin to be in love with your cousin. for those of u that are ignornat and talking fuck that u dont know about just shut up. i is tell ya how it is fuck of and stop being jack ass. if loving your cousin was wrong why the hell did god allow jacob to have a chlid with his first cousin ? why did he open her womb for jacob and his cousin to bear child? read yall damn bible and stop judging people. stop being ignorant and learn the facts. if you wont do it, good but dont criticize others. who dont like what i say reply back to me so i could tell ya bout ya ingnorant ass. i een never scared fuck off bitches! think ya head buck mess with me!
- Hi!
I´ve just got a question.
I love my cousin, but cant say it to him because i´ve got the fear that he dont love me, would only laugh or think that i am sick or something like that.
I dont know how to react when he is vor visit in our house...
What would you do if you was me?
please write back!
N. - I've been in love with my cousin for 45 years. The sharpness of the love will dull somewhat but every time I see him it starts all over again. I just seen him again and he gave me the same look as always. So much love comes through his eyes. No one has ever looked at me with that kind of love in his eyes before. I know he loves me. His actions always tell me so. I've been married twice, live with a wonderful man once and I still never forgot my favorite man, my cousin. Forty-five years of love is a testimony in itself.
- Yeah, I know what I'm talking about and I know enough to say that you are truly sick and twisted for suggesting that I want to be in a relationship with MY BLOOD RELATIVES?
I'm not the one boasting about the love between myself and a FIRST COUSIN, YOU are and that was why I made the statement that if people are going to have relationships with their cousins, what's to stop parents from having them with their children and so on.
The line SHOULD be drawn somewhere. There's enough people in the world that cousins shouldn't feel the need to be sneaking around and laying up with one another. You can't make me believe that there's anything "good" about that. I don't care where it originated and who was foolish enough to follow that line of thinking. You're weak and giving in to deviant desires of the flesh.
If you really didn't believe that there was anything wrong with it and you were really comfortable with your choice, YOU wouldn't be spending so much time on here defending your position.
A sick and twisted web site dedicated to the sick and twisted mindset of its followers is STILL not confirmation that this lifestyle is okay. I hope you all have enough sense to cry out to God and ask that you be delivered from this sordid lifestyle.
The enemy is loose and has already shown prime examples of how easy it is to have some of you catering to the hell that will become your homes if you aren't prayerful and looking to loose his bind on you. Be blessed!
~ SL ~ - SL-
firstly, it's not boasting.. we come here because we can't be accepted anywhere else. Websites like these are some of the few places 'social outcasts' like us can go and feel safe from ridecule, but apparently not.
Should a line be drawn? Yes, it is of course up to you to set your own lines and your own boundries; only you know what is right for you, but please don't set other people's boundries for them. We can do that by ourselves quite well.
Also, about the desires of the flesh? This seems more like a desire of the heart to me, but whatever you say...
We're only 'defending our position' because we were attacked in the first place. If people would stop speaking of how "morally/ethically unjust", etc it is, we would stop the 'defending' and be able to get on with our lives.
I'm not sure about anyone else, but I only am typing this because I beleive others can benefit from what I have to say. I hold no quarrel with God, nor any other power higher than myself, so what do I have to worry about?
Lastly, about the "sick and twisted website...", I would like to ask a question:
Who of the people whom named the website "sick and twisted", etc, has posted on said website?
Only one that I know of..
For those who have no idea what I said...aka people who don't like to use fancy words, here is the question in "plain english":
"Didn't you say the website was sick and twisted? Yes? if so, why are you here?"
hmm...
"The enemy"? Wow. That's a bit harsh. Who declared war on half of humankind? I certainly hope not yourself, as you'd have quite a hard time fighting that many mosquitos, and I daresy humans are a right bit smarter than insects.
Hmm... did God tell you to declare war on cousin couples? If so, perhaps you should pray to him to deliver us from our bleak existance, and smite us all.
It'd be a bit easier than smiting us heathens one at a time with guns and swords, eh?
-The Geek- - can i just say geek u are great! And completly right, i can't believe the attitude some people have for falling in love. I am in love with my cousin and it is hard fighting so many views and opinions but at the end of the day i would fight for ever because just hearing him say my name makes my day, everything about him. It is the purist love i have felt! did you know charles dawin was a cousin couple! i just feel people shouldnt dismiss what they dont understand! - kell
- Kell-
Agreed! It's hard to find people who accept us, much less people who agree. I am glad and thankful for your support :)
Also, I apologize to everyone involved for the really long posts... It just frustrates me that some people cannot accept others for who they are.
-The Geek- - *shudder* now that SL is handing out blessings, I feel like I need have "Atonement" cast on me by a cleric with a caster level of five hundred... and succeed on a DC 39 will save to resist losing fifteen points to each INT, WIS, and CHA and losing all my skill points..and gaining ten negative levels...and becoming AL: CN instead of LG..
Jeez, why not just put a fouth level Paladin such as myfelf up against a Pit feind with twenty levels in fighter/wizard/cleric?
One more thing: SL, you are neither St Cuthbert, nor are you Heironius, nor are you Pelor. Don't patronize people who aren't in your God's portfolio.
Geek
PS: I wonder what Pelor thinks about cousin marriges?
Geek,
I don't know that you read what was REALLY said and meant in MY post and I have to wonder if it is because YOU don't want to SEE what is not "right"
about your relationship with your BLOOD RELATIVE or if you automatically become so defensive that you come out swinging before you know what's going on.
I didn't damn anyone to hell or anything else, I don't have the power to do that, I was more or less trying to get you to understand how some aren't able to see anything "positive" about a relationship of this kind.
The "sick and twisted" website that I was referring to was www.cousincouples.com, not this one. I can understand why you're here and why you feel that you don't believe that you can share what you feel for a relative "out in the open," but you also can't get angry because others find it "disgusting" or anything else that they might have to say about it. This site is for anyone who cares to comment to do so, NOT just for those wanting to make a confession.
If you check out my posts, you'll see that I was a lot more kinder and gentler than some who have come in and commented. I came back the way I did (the third time) after the poster (I don't know if that was you or not) said:
"Just because you want to date your brother/sister/
mother/father/son/daughter dosn't mean that other people want to."
I have NO desire to date a relative, never have and pray that I never wake up in a frame of mind to want to, because I know that it isn't what we're (those of us who care to subscribe to it the moral, values, and accountability aspect of it) supposed to do.
I declared war on no one and if it is something that I didn't understand or see as right, then I'm well within my rights, especially on this site to make it known. People who believe in God ARE supposed to speak up and say a word about that which they know is not of Him. Just as I have made my position known that I can't see why you'd allow a relationship with a cousin to exist, I have asked that you be blessed and delivered from this if it be God's will, which of course would have to be sanctioned by YOU.
I was a lot more decent and understanding in my reponse to you and basically did it with the hope that it wouldn't be taken as an all out attack on you, but you have to be honest with yourself and ask are you more bothered that I don't believe it to be right or because you KNOW in your heart of hearts that you shouldn't be doing it?
In the end, God will be the one to tell you that your love for your cousin has sent you to hell or that it didn't weigh enough against you to send you there, but just as you have asked to be able to post your thoughts without being attacked or ridiculed, I ask that I be allowed to respond under the same terms and conditions.
I have relatives who are homosexual, lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, etc. etc. etc. and when people share their thoughts and ideas of it not being right, they don't get on the defensive and wage an all out war on that person, they discuss it, and move on afterwards.
It isn't like no one cares that you're in this predicament or having to live "in the shadows," but the combative attitude doesn't necessarily make anyone want to understand how hard it must be for you.
I didn't scamper away and run after making my position known, nor did I "gang up" on you with like-minded people so somewhere in there should be a benefit of the doubt that I have been sincere in my efforts to know what makes this so.
Nonetheless, this has gone on long enough and I wish you all well and pray that if deliverance is what you want, that you seek He who is able to grant it to you. Be blessed.
~ SL ~- I think its ok .... i mean i know how you feel just cas im in love with my third cousin and may be pregnant... i mean like come on..he's my third caousin..anyways what im trying to say is if you love him dont let any one tell you what to do cas by listening to evryone else your just gonna get hurt... i fell in love with my third cousin b4 i knew we were cousins.. and now i know but i still love him.. you cant help who you love and by the looks of it alot of people understand that..
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- SL, I apolagize.
While I did vehemently support what I said (and still do), I apparently misunderstood what you had meant. I have a tendancy to become extremly sarcastic when I get annoyed...
I hope that if we continue this, we can both do so in a more civilized manner; at present I accept all responsibility for hostilities. "My bad", as they say..
You are right in your position, and I am right in mine. Who are we to attack each other?
Well, I can only hope that people, pro or neg, will try to converse in a civil manner.
Peace! (and blessings, especially to SL here,)
The Geek - I understand that everyone has there own point of view. And as i have posted before i am madly in love with my cousin and it hurts to read harsh opinions from those who object. I still stand by GEEK on this one im sure that the opinions expressed aren't about raging war against no one, its just an extreamly passionate subject. I get so angry sometimes when reading peoples opinions, coz i feel if u could understand an ounce of how i feel then u would't say such things. Some times in life we have to agree to differ. KELL
Geek,
Your apology is accepted and I'd like to make one as well, for not being as clear as I needed to be in my stance.
I agree, if more would come on and respond "in kind" there's no telling how decent and informative this 'talk' could be. :)
~ SL ~- oh thank you :)
It's just kind of always been my position on pretty much everything, to let people be happy, and if that means to marry their cousin, then it's fine. I'm probably more "loose" than alot of people..
-Geek - CLICK ON GOOGLE ADS PLEASE!!
- Mmmmmmmmkay. I did it like ten times.
-geek - What does your family say about this? ? Are you a christian? Let me know.
- I am a quaker. My dad's fine with it, my stepmom's fine with it, my mom's fine with it, and my stepdad doesn't know.
-Geek - You can actually see yourself having kids? Not caring about what others will say? We as humans can be so cruel.
- wow what a confession, but guess what I LOVE MY COUSIN TOO!! so i guess, it wasn't that much of a shocker, as you might think it would be to us all. There are many people in this world who have found themselves in the same exact shoes as you. If you just open yourself up........get educated, you will learn it's not so bad. Think of it from an outside point of view, and you can see why others might not be so favorable to this..but just because some families might be against someone of a different religion, who are they to judge is right. It's not the most conventional thing in the world. But you can learn for yourself and make your own decisions.
- I just wanted to say that cousincouples by the way is the best site ever. You should go there and post how you feel, rather than on a site like this. It's a great place to come to for support and andvice, and you can learn a great deal. That goes for anyone else too, you might be interested in this topic.
- hmm.. not sure if this was directed towards me, but...
Yes I can see us having kids.. it would be dificult, but worth it. Yes, humans can be cruel.
Yes Cousincouples is an awesome site.
-Geek- - I love my cousin as well...Geek way to go....it took me the longest time to allow my cousin to convince me that the love was true...it was hard for me to realize that we even could have a relationship, that he meant what he said...
we've been together for about 4yrs now, and all i can say is this: IF IT FEELS so natural then it's right for you. and for those perverse ppl who suggets well y not ur sis/bro/dad/mom then?....no cousin lover has had that run through their mind....and yes i can speak on behalf of em...it's hella hard to go down this road yes...but wen it feels so right...i realize i gotta do this...every person makes a completely distinct connection wit another....the conneciton i have wit my cousin i cannot have wit any other guy...why would i ever have to let it go, when it is the one thing i can depend on?...from other sites ive read this...and at least for me it's been true...but cousins tend to have a love that NEVER FADES...it's the strongest thing...every time i c him again..it's like the first time...and i cannot contain a smile for what my life's worth....
we've been having nproblems because the family thing is catching up to us...but for your sake....stay true to it, have faith...you'll never regret it, if u live it. - Does it ever get easier, i love my cousin so much and him me, we have been in a relationship a year, i moved away from where he lives due to other stuff, but we are always in contact and waiting for the time we can truly be together hurts soooo bad. I miss him with every ounce of my being, the slightest thing like his touch his smell and his smile! those who get to be with ur cousin, really be with them then count urself lucky! value it. Its the pusist thing ur heart can feel!
kell - well... I am really confused about this..
i know for sure that I love my cousin (he is like 2nd cousin or 3rd cousin) but I sooo don't have the gutz to tell him, this might all sound sick to some ppl, but i don't care.. as I think about this... my 2nd o 3rd cousin hasn't really been known as one of my cousins because throughout my whole life I haven't even talk to him.. ever.. his family usually has their own things going on, and so do mine, plus he lives about 1 hour away... I only really got to know him for 2 yrs now, and that's only because we ACTUALLY talked to eachother in 7th grade! I remember telling my BFF "oh look at that guy.. he's kinda cute!" and then later on i recognized him , from seeing him years ago... we were in the same class, and we talked for a bit, we had so much in common! i couldn't believe it... i was usually the quiet and shy one, and here I was... talking in class during group assignments with him about our fave bands and stuff... so it's not like I have known him forever! is it wrong to go out with someone who is your 2nd or 3rd cousin??!? plz write back!
-Confused- - It aint wrong whatever cousin it is, i to was raised away from my cousin, never really saw him as family i mean he lives in a different counrty!! He is my 1st cousin but i dont care because the love i have with him is something i was always looking for, i just found it in the strangest place! lol. Just tell him, honesty is the best policy. x kell
- J i love you and i am in love with you.
- Geek i totally sypothise, my cousin has been in contact for days and he is sowly drifting away from me, and it is heart breaking, at first he said he feels down and he cuts off from everyone when he is but now he has barely been in contact and i deep down feel i have lost him, and as much as it hurts i will never regret one moment i have had with him!!! I really do believe that it is better to loved and lost than never to have loved at all, keep ur chin up and heart open hun. ;-) KELL
- That's Nasty
- Great. I'm depressed now. It seems like as I talked here, my cousin started to drift away... she just told me that she isnt ready for this kind of relationship yet- after us kissing for years-and it seems like this will never work out..
I honestly hope that your love lives are better than mine...good luck!
-The Geek- - I Love My cousin too and i know my cousin likes me but i dono now cuz i havent seen her for 8 months when she texted me she told me she doesnt have a BF and when i come back she will tell me something.. i know i loved her i have been involve with 6 girls but i cant stop loving my first cousin she's my first love and the only girl i ever truly loved.
-Unknown- - I know what u mean unknown, i miss my cousin everyday, i even tried to go on a date, just to see if i could and all that ran through my mind was that it wasnt him. He is the love of my life, how do u compare to that?
- Just Pray about it. I know it's hard when you love someone even if it is a cousin Love has no boundaries. Just be carefull.......
- Thankyou, who ever wrote that prey about it, i do prey every night to one day be settled and happy with him. Why would i be blessed with such an amazing love, for it not to be forever. I dont hear anything from him for days at a time and it breaks my heart. He is the best thing that ever happened to me, yet the most pain i have ever been through. Those who get to be with those they love, cousin or not, hold it dear 4 u are lucky! x
- why does it all have to be soo bloody difficult, and those who say it is wrong, why would we choose such a hard and heart breaking situation?? I love my cousin so bad i cant see sence all i do know is that when i am with him nothing matters and when he isnt by my side, i feel physically sick with loss, if u have a choice to be happy and go with it, better than missing the most wonderfull thing u could experience in your life!
- PLEASE.
All this crap about not being able to control who you fall inlove with is utter fuckery.
UH...YES YOU CAN CONTROL THAT.
So, if I was a woman with 5 kids and I feel inlove with a pedophile, that would be ok? I mean, I can't control who I love and well, while he's trying to get into my 7 year old daughter's panties, love conquers all?
PLEASE. you can to control it. You don't have to be around anyone you don't want to nor do you have to develop feelings. Are you saying you can't control that? You a weak minded individual then. To all you dumbasses encouraging this farce of a relationship...let's flip it. Imagine if it was your daughter in love with your sister's son. Still ok with it? You either a liar or a damn disturbed pervert if you say yes!!! - You are so far off the mark it is stupid!!!!! If u fell in love with a peado then u cant help that u fell in love with him but then when u find out u hurt them and it would be over! But falling in love with a cousin is so different!!!! they have NOT done anything like u have said about a peado, there another normal person, not deserving such a title. You really are too harsh. But then again people like you only put down what u dont understand! Get educated before u start to comment on such a complex subject, not everything is black and white.
- Tehee. "Utter Fuckery". That's funny. I'll have to write that one down...
- Thank you for that. It is true that not everything is black and white.
Even the quakers, a group who attempt to be open to all people and accepting of everything find themselves uncomfortable when faced with cousin marriges. I know this because I brought it up in my meeting (the quaker equivalent of church) and many people were uncomfortable discussing it.
Nothing is black and white. Sin, acceptance, nothing is excused. Everything has an exception. I beleive that there is never an excuse to hurt somone UNLESS there is no other choice; some people beleive that happiness is important, EXCEPT when it interferes with their career; nothing is without exception, including this rule.
Think about that last sentance too long and you head'll explode ;)
-The Geek- - Do click on the Google Adsense Ads to support this site.
- Yeah.
Whoever keeps instructing us to click on the Ads, please stop. Things like that don't belong in this discussion.
-The Geek- - This is as far as lust can go!!
Alan - My ex husband has fallen in love with his 1st cousin, i think its disgusting and unatural and utterly immoral!!.Whilst he feels its ok to play hide the sausage in the family tree!!!, it poses the question as to whether our lack of compatability was due to the fact we were't related
- i too love ma cousin alot
- well i dont think anyone has the power to control who they love. i love my cousin from my fathers side and were thinking of getting married. the most important thing is that its right in the eyes of God and no-one else. Jacob and rebekah were cousins in the bible. so the bible doesnt forbid it. cousin marriage is not wrong in the eyes of God. stay blessed
- This is not wrong, it's absolutely okay.
Some people have a problem with it,
evidently they've never experienced love,
so they have no clue how you feel.
I too am in love with my cousin.
You can't help whom your heart
chooses, so people need to stfu.
You love whom you love.
This is kind of just like "gay" people.
The same gender, the same kin.
It's fine.
I was never around my cousin my whole life,
and then when we hungout JUST ONCE,
we instantly clicked, he too feels the same way.
We gave our love a try and we're still standing strong.
A lot of people don't approve,
but the people who said they'll always be there,
are still standing by us through this hell.
True friends will stick with you.
The ones who don't stick with you,
don't care about you as much as they should.
You sound like a great person,
who is just lost about this situation.
No worries, hun.
It's all good.
If you feel that you love him,
and this relationship will work out,
go for it.
Good luck. <3 - Yay! I'm glad that somone has some sense.
-The Geek- - i reakon u should stop it it's incest and sick
- Well...I'm falling in love with my cousin too...its driving me insane. I can't stop thinking about him. I want him. He says he wants me too...but I think deep down inside, he might be kinda nervous. Hes afraid I might not be serious or something. But I am serious...I know how I truly feel about him, and my feelings are so real.
- Well said! I can tell that you, at least, have half a brain. People come here for support and advice, not ridicule and judgement. Try to be nice to people. It's not as hard as you think. The next time you find yourself saying "That's sick", think before you click "submit". How would you feel if somone said the same thing about somthing you chose to do? Whether you're religous or not, always remember, "Do unto others..."
-The Geek- - first i would like to say im not here to judge cuz i don't believe in that but i will say a lot of people think they know what they are talking about when they don't, they just like to justify how they feel and what they do. i do not mean to sling mud, just want to state a fact. my advice to you is to use your own brain to make up your own mind and use logic and reasoning, the tools that the REAL Creator gave you (not the god from the white supremacist bible, he does not exist) and decide with your own damn mind if it is love or lust. if it is love you have a difficult choice to make. if it is lust then don't act on a whim (despite the fact that you already did) and cut it off.
- IM ONLY 15 AND IM IN LOVE WITH MY 20YR OLD 1ST COSIN. I LOST MY VIRGINITY WITH HIM NOT LONG AGO AND YOU COULDNT POSSIBLY UNDERSTAND HOW IT FEELS UNLESS U GO THRU IT. HE'S F**KIN GORGEOUS N IT DOESNT MATTER THAT WERE RELATED 'CAUSE WE LOVE EACHOTHER AND EVERYONE IS RELATED IN ONE WAY OR ANOTHER. IT DOESNT MATTER WAT ANYONE ELSE THINKS. I WOULD RATHER HAVE A FEW SAD PEOPLE THINKING IM SICK AND BE HAPPY WITH SOMEONE I CARE ABOUT THAN LOSE HIM. IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE, YOU LOVE THEM AND ANYONE WHO SAYS YOU SHOULDNT BE WITH A PERSON YOU LOVE WITH ALL YOUR HEART THEN THEY ARE A STUPID MORON. HAPPINESS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING. YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE SO YOU SHOULD USE THE TIME YOU HAVE WISELY AND SPEND IT WITH THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE REGARDLESS OF EVERYTHING ELSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! XXXXXXXXXXX MWAH!!!!! XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
- I don't think its right but i have a cousin who has 3 or 4 maybe 5 kids with her cousin. they were kids but knew they were some kin. distance kin but who cares that nasty.
- hi my name is cynthia..i am 21..i live in california,
all i have to say is that i am marrying my 1st cousin too...we are going to have a our little girl.....don't let no one get you down....and i know what you mean about saying to keep family outta of your buisness..i feel the same way about ours.....and the sex is the best also!!!!
take care
04-02-07 - I'm glad that you can be happy, Cynthia. Hugs to everyone, and high-fives to people who don't accept hugs! Love rules!
-The Geek- - im also in love with my cousin and hope
1 day to spend the rest of my life with her,
alot of risks are exagerated and even
god himself commanded first cousins to marry,
it may not be healthy but thats your opinion,
im happy and i wont be unhappy just to make
other people happy,but thats my opinion and
CHOICE,people who critise also have there secreats.
all i can say is in my eyes its fine as im happy. :) - u know what dont be ashamed because im in da same situation...i have a boyfriend but i have strong feeling for my second cuzin...and i know he does too!
and honestly you just cant help it! - I'm glad there are people in the same situation as me. I am madly in love with my cousin, and she's all I think about all day. I'm sure she's attracted to me too, because when ever we have the chance to be together we are...which is nearly every day. She's flirtacious all the time.
Any time that I hint at some sort of relationship (joking around) she says "hmm....that wouldn't be right", but I can't tell if she is serious or just nervous about it opening up like I am. I'm not confident enough to outright tell her that I'm in love with her.
For anyone that doesn't understand or is repulsed, just know that I didn't choose to be in love with her, I just am....and I'm not denying it.
We've kissed, we hold hands and each other often.
She is so perfect. She's beautiful, smart, funny (same sense of humor as mine), and everything else that I want in a girl.
Maybe someone could give me advice on how to tell her how I feel.
Thanks. - I am In love with my half cousin. We have been In love for more than a decade. And we are 16 & 17, and i couldnt be more happier with anyone else. For the first time in my life I know I can trust her, enough to give my life to her Once we Get enough money to get a house together We are and nobody can stop us. We are happy together and We are going to stay happy together until the end. AND ALL THE PEOPLE WHO THINK ITS WRONG IS FULL OF BULLSHIT...FUCKIN THATS AMERICAN PROPAGANDA...NOW PUT THAT IN YOU MOUTH AND SUCK IT.
-FLAME - to all of you judging, and critizing...what is your secret? you are in this website for a reason...
- hi geek-----i'm a big fan of your comments!
- I didn't grow up with my American half cousin, and have only met him as an adult. We have now for a long time tried to resist those feelings we both considered wrong, but have now finally admitted how we feel for one another. It is so very painful for us both. He resuses to give it a chance as he's afraid of what people might think and thinks it's wrong. I'm worried too but what I'm also worried about is my heart and the fact that this could be so amazing if we could try. I've had several long relationships but have never felt this strongly about anyone before, and sadly somehow doubt I will. My closest friends that I've discussed this with are perfectly fine with it and think he's a coward. I can't judge him though. Just seeing a lot of the comments on this site makes me feel like him and I loving each other is something wrong that we should just get over and forget about. And live in a life long heart break.
The worst part is that He doesn't know we're only half cousins which could perhaps change the situation quite a bit. Everyone else in the family knows this except for him and his siblings. If I would to tell him, it would hurt a lot of people that I love including him probably.
So how's that for a bad soap opera for you.
What can I do? - I think having sex with your cousin is perfectly fine. I've been fantasizing about having sex with one of my cousins and I'm fine with that I even masturbate thinking of her. Trust me, you're fine just go somewhere private with your cousin and have a great time!
- yall muthafuckas r sick. first of all. yall r fucking first cousin. second of all yall r first fucking cousin. third of all yall r fucking cousins. do u get the point NASTY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
- hy i spent 20 mn reading these comments. i can't help but add my thought to that. i met my first cousin 4 years ago, he lives abroad. n we stayed friends since. we shared great moments just over the phone talkign to each other for hours. i haven't seen him for 4 years now. i had bf during that time, none of these relationships worked out. i was comparing those guys to my cousin. when i felt i had feelings towards him, i couldn't admit it for 6 months i was upset n angry until i couln't bear it anymore. so i told him the way i feel for him. turned out he's been fighting his feelings towards me too. he used to mention it from time to time (joking) n i used to reply we're just cousins. the truth is we r 1st cousins from both our dad's side, which is a high risk. we've done lots of researches, n found out that nothing prohibits this not even science n we're going for tests too (wish us luck, plz). joey....
May 28, 2007 - I love my cousin he said that he loves me too but when i say that if he can introduce me to his parents as his girl he said that it is not the right time yet. Well hell! if he truly loves me everdays a right time. I asked him why he doesn't ask me to break w/ my boyfrend he just said that he doesn't want to influence my decisions. And when I broke up w/ him he only said "if it does makes me happy". Hell again! I guess he doesn't love me as much as i love him.
- YA'LL WILD FOR THIS ONE.I AINT THE ONE TO JUDGE YOU.GOD SAID YOU COULDNT MESS WITH KIN FOLKS.IT IS NASTY BUT OH WELL DO YOU IT AINT ME.YA HEARD ME:)
- I AM IN LOVE WITH MY cousin to but there is just on thing it has been a year since i have seen him and ya we had sex and were toghter for some time But i it just did't work cuz's he lived so far .. but we talked ever day and then i just end. i am going to see my family this summer were it all started and he his bring his girl firend and i dont no what to do cuz he text me telling me that he missed me in his bed
June 5, 2007 - I've never been in love with my cousin, but, whatever you want go for it, me telling you that it is wrong or immoral would be like you telling me i can't get married to a woman because it is wrong or immoral.... plus im not quite liking all the down south comments everyone keeps making... just becuase you live in alabama doesnt mean you like you're cousin... but go for it if you believe its true then do it
JULY 8, 2007 - does the word incest mean anything to u??????????
- scientifically speaking...giving birth to children with family members means bigger risk of getting REALLY REALLY ill children...thats why ALL society is against incest....
- Good luck to all of you. I'm a big fan of Geek--but what ever happened to him?
- I am in love with my cousin as well. It's been only two years and I feel like I'm going mad. Everytime I see him I become sick. I love him so much and it's killing me. I don't know what to do. Someone please help me!
August 9, 2007 - We'll basicly the last 10 years of my life has been nothing but pain and suffering, then my first cousin comes into my life and i saw what bueatiful really is. The worst part is that she has left my life due to us living in seperate countries and i'm back in my hole, thinking, what the fuk am i going to do.
I think about her all the time, and we do sort of keep in contact, we'll i try my best and i dunno, i love her with all my heart, i won't love anyone the way i love her, she is the light in this darkness that surrounds me.
Sep 20, 2007 - I really wouldn't worry, most people are opened minded these days, and need to be with the crap happening on the news, and the things or seletons I've heard that people have in there clossets, people have bigger fish to fry, its been going on for thousands of years and its everywhere just that people dont know because people keep things private because its NONE OF ANYONES BUSINESS - GET IT!!
I bet half the people have had an affair, committed a serious crime or had something they wouldnt want anyone to know, so they should back off and get on with there own lifes, ye know some people just dont have enough things to do in the day rather thatn curtain twitch...
you only live that we know of, do what ever makes you happy as long as its legal, thats what the laws there for...
all the best
Sep 11, 2007 - I am in love with my cousin too...so much and I am so wombed by society and their ignorance about LOVE. My cousin and I share the same feelings for one another, however he lives in another state so its hard for us to communicate especailly around family. I am also several years older than him so the idea is monsturous in most people's eyes but when I say that I have never felt a love so strong..I really mean that.
He looks at me with so much love and deep affection, he's proud to hold my hand to be around me. He loves my skin, my hair, my giggle. He knows when something is bothering me he is very intuned with me... My thoughts are filled with memories of his laughter, his gaze at me, the twinkle in his eye when I step into his presence, and it just makes me sad to experience a love so strong under these circumstances. I tell myself to move on, to let him go, and my heart says no, I have tried dating other people and my heart is literally somewhere else. I don't know what to do... I don't want to be an outcast ....
that was never apart of my plan and yet denying my feelings for him would be like denying a part of myself cuz he is literally all I think about and i don't know if its the distance and space between us or if its the negativie societal energy that surrounds my frusterations. I don't want to hide in corners or talk in shadows, I want to be free to share my love experience the same as anyone else, I feel that is my God given right. Why do people judge love...as if you have control over who u love...I could see if it was lust. I am in tears because I know that I am not crazy, and it hurts when the ones you love the most think that you are.
M.
Sep 30, 2007 - Do what u want to do they can't stop u guys from being together of that is who u loev then u can be with him
Oct 22, 2007 - If you love eachother, stuff the family! either elope, or do a Romeo and Juliet.
- PEOPLE WHO THINK COUSIN LOVE IS NASTY ARE ALL NARROW-MINDED, PERHAPS EVEN NOT FULLY EDUCATED! THEY THINK THIS WHOLE THING IS SICK BECAUSE THEY HAVE NEVER BEEN IN THE SAME SITUATION! MY ADVICE.... IF THEY HAVE NOTHING GOOD TO SAY THEY SHOULD JUST ZIPPER THEIR MOUTH BECAUSE THEY ARE NO HELP AT ALL! LOVING YOUR COUSIN IS NOT A SIN AND BEING JUDGMENTAL IS ABSOLUTELY A SIN! THEY ARE THE ONES WHO ARE BURNING IN HELL AND NOT US!
Nov 1, 2007 - I DONT KNOW WHAT TO HONESTLY SAY...IM SO CONNECTED WIT THE 'COMMUNICATION'...I FEEL INSTANTLY AWE...IM NOT ALONE...I AM SO IN LOVE WIT MY CUZIN...BUT WE CHOOSE TO LET GO..AND SET US BOTH FREE FROM THE ATTACHMENT...WE ARE NOW HVING SEPARATE LIVES...BUT IT NVER BEEN A HAPPY LIFE WITH OUT HIM...IT NVER BEEN COMPLETE...HE IS THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPEND TO ME....BUT I LEARNED TO LET GO...
Nov 9, 2007 - My cousin and I have had feelings for each other for years. Although we think it is taboo (mainly because of our families), it is up to the person(s) involved and how they percieve their families reaction.
There is nothing I could find in any medical journal that says that having sex and babies out of a cousin/cousin relationship will produce any more birth defects than a non-cousin relationship. Good Luck on your decisions.
Nov 15, 2007 - I think that society has socialized us to think that something like this is wrong. However, ultimatley though, I agree that your cousin is not just some "guy" he is your family, your blood, I can only imagine how complicated things like this would become if you continue on like this, so for the sake of your long term happiness and mental and emotional well being, I think you should stop, and think about what makes you so attracted to him, is it the fact that he's in your family, or is it the fact that your simply in love with him?
Dec 27, 2007 - Hmm, just wondering.. Would all u people who encourage this relationship, feel the same way if it was her brother!? Of course love is a good thing.. and sure, its hard to control your feelings. But somethings you just cant have doubt in, when it is wrong..
He's family, your mother's nephew and in your blood. It's just plain wrong, girl. Sorry!
Feb 20, 2008 - Please find a man that is not cousin becuase in the future you will regret it very much!!!
- On second thought--
I think I'll stay. Seeing as how my comments are appreciated, I'll continue to argue for cousin marriage.
Free love! Expression! Be happy!
Yeah!
I love being an artist. ;)
-The Geek-
April 7, 2008 - Haven't added my two cents for a while here, but I thought I should give this thread one final wave before I go. A send off, if you will.
Anyway, be free, all lovers! Shakespeare said that. Or he might have. Or maybe it was someone totally different.
Well, maybe someone said that.
Heck, I'm saying it! Be free! Fly!
The point is, you have to make your own life. You can't try to please everyone else. Be happy.
As a closing point, I'd like to once again point out that all but one (unless I'm missing something) of the dissenters here have horrible, horrible grammar.
-The Geek-
April 7, 2008