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Sent to a friend I have only been married for 6 months, my husband and I have only been together for a year and a half. Yes, we rushed. No, I wasn\'t pregnant. We thought we knew each other pretty well. It would seem that he is finally realizing things about me that he really doesn\'t like. He says that\'s okay, but he has anger issues, and frequently yells at me about little things: ex. liking a different food for dinner than him. I know this is silly, but he shouts at me and cusses at me about it. I feel like we already need counseling. All of a sudden, I am responsible for everything..chores, money, errands, etc. Compared to the worlds problems, mine seem so insignificant. He told me when we first started talking that he was VERY affectionate. Now, apparently I am too affectionate for HIM. How did this happen? When we argue..he says things like \"Well maybe we made a mistake...\" Or \"Well I guess we shouldn\'t be together huh?\" He apologizes later, says he didn\'t mean it that way. He doesn\'t like it that God is number one in my life, it makes him feel less special. Many of these things were discussed before we got married, but he said \"I do\"..and he seemed to forget who I really was. Why does this happen? I am worried that we will never make each other happy. I have friends who like the way I am..he shouts at me for the way I am sometimes. Then apologizes for losing his temper. He does have good qualities. I just don\'t feel accepted and loved for who I truly am. Help. And, yes, I have prayed about it too :-)Rating:0.00
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- That is the hardest thing sometimes, when you love someone and things go wrong. It is difficult to see a situation for what it really is. Understand this: you should be loved for you, good and bad. If he didn't love you for who you really are, then who did he love?
- This is from the the woman who posted this comment. For anyone who would like to know: Yes I have discussed these things with my husband, and to no avail. This is a desperated attempt for possible unbiased opinions. Also just venting too. Thanks for any opinions that are offered.
- Now that you have prayed do not be deceived. Your husband is abusive, right now it is verbally in the future I am certain the it will be physical. His constant verbal put downs are sincere, he means them when he says them or why else would he constantly repeat them and then apologize. the next time He says maybe we made a mistake tell him that you agree. The next time he puts you down and then says he didn't mean it. Tell him he should have, because you still feel bad. I feel badly that you were so decieved but something tells me that you had a sign of some sort and chose to ignore it. We all had done so, but to miss the point and over look the issue can be a major misstep . Anyone that has the audacity to say that he doesn't like that God is number one, would be out of my life before he could say "why?"
- From the woman who posted the confession:I do appreciate the advice. I have been having trouble thinking about this for so long. This week I thought "Hey, we haven't argued yet..." Then I realized..woops, we haven't been around each other enough to argue. I hate to paint him in a bad light honestly. I sound like every other woman, but here it goes: he does have some wonderful qualities..I married him for a reason :-) He can be so sweet and funny and loving..then he gets mad over something simple and is insulted when I tell him it's not worth fighting about..like pizza toppings! Yes, I'm serious, he yelled over pizza toppings. I simply told him he had other issues to deal with that had nothing to do with pizza toppings and he needed to tell me what the real problem is. I could go on and on...and I will if I don't stop now! It's always confusing when you love someone...but I will take your advice to heart. Thank you for your insight. It helps to know I am not over-reacting to anything :-).
- May GOD BLESS YOUR HEART AND BRING PEACE TO YOUR MIND. ALL MY PRAYERS GO OUT TO YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND.
- ok, i had the same kind of guy for 14 months. we were engaged and trying to have a kid. we even got a dog and all that was his idea. i had to do EVERYTHING. even make the money, he workd about 20hrs a week and his paychecks went to his weed smoking habit.. and i was stuck paying all the bills and working hard and asking my parents for food and money to help out. thankfully the relationship has ended..im sure i would be dead by now if it hadnt. the last 2 months of our relationship he took his anger to the next level. he started hitting me, kicking me in the ribs, throwing me around, throwing stuff at me , pouring alcohol on me.... which is something he said he would never do... he said any man who would hit a woman should be killed. then during one of his rare "nice" moments, i decided to talk to him about it and he says to me "you know there's woman out there who get it far worse than you".. but i shouldnt have got any of it at all. and to top it off.. he had cheated on me all the time, even with my best friend of 9 years. but now, i couldnt be happier without him. LIFE is amazing, if you're unhappy with it... change it, no matter how much it hurts. most pain heals.