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Sent to a friend I'm 18 and I always want to have sex and often when I see a fine black man I imagine him and myself having sex. I contain myself b/c i don't want to catch anything or be labeled but it's so hard. Are those thoughts and feelings wrong or bad at my age?Rating:3.29
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- As a young woman (20yrs old) I can understad where you are coming from. I being a virgin also have temptations, but have made a choice to wait. Its human nature to have urges. If you are not ready dont do it because you may regret it.
- I also understand where you're coming from I'm a 19 year old virgin and my sexual urges are crazy. But I just remind myself if I go and have sex on impulse and it isn't the right time I can never get that first time back.
- i too understand where u are coming from i'm a 19 year old virgin too and the urges to have sex are out of my control. It's like i wanna do it but then i think about what will happen in the long run. and i have to regain my focus. It's hard to wait but in the long run u will be happy u did.
- Look i can see where u are comin' from im a 19 year old virgin and the sexual urges are outta my control. I sometimes have to regain my focus. When i see a sexy ass tall ass light skin nigga i be wanna holla and get some. Havin' sex is on my mind 24-7. What's a girl to do. And waitin' for the right one is hard as hell for me. I told myself that i was gonna wait until marriage be i don't think that will happen.
- those types of feelings are normal sweetheart, but know this.....when you least expect you will find the man to not only give your body 2, but your heart and your soul......just trust God to send him to you....don't be so anxious....because there will be so many regrets....
- There is nothing wrong with the feelings you are experiencing as it is all part of human nature. However, you must realize that your body is a priceless jewel. Never allow anyone to tamper the goods just because of what you feel. Wait until the right someone comes along and values you and will treat you like the true jewel you are instead of a piece of jewelry from a bubble gum machine.
Focus on the beauty of life and your goals. Enjoy dating, but remember every man you meet does not deserve to touch the merchandise.
Intimacy is a beautiful union between a man and women that truly love each other. It is not intended to be an indulging delight just because it feels good.
Don't rush and go do some exercise to burn that energy! (smile) - i can honestly say that i've been there i've gone so far as to attempt to give away my virginity but the attempt failed b/c i wasnt ready. its not about the urges u feel, true enuf they can be strong but if ur mind n body frame isnt ready, it wont happen. so dont worry about whether u shud or shudnt b/c there is a perfect time n when that time comes, ull kno it
- Don't rush it. Save yourself for your husband, the man who willl respect, cherish, and honor you. May Allah make it easy for you, and help you retain your status as an honorable and chaste woman.
- It's not worth it (I promise). Don't rush it. Focus on your goals. There is plenty of time to get it on. A lot of women have sex for the wrong reason anyway. So just wait.
- being a 20---about to become 21 year old virgin....sweetheart I know where you're coming from....and it is so hard when all you see on tv is people havin sex.....but take it from me sister....it aint all its cracked up to be. I always fool around....but never go all the way cause i'm too scared to....but when you find the right guy you'll know it.....and the whole thing about waiting until you're married is crap. I say this because what about those females who never want to get married...what are we supposed to do. Never have sex because we decided that we didn't want a man in our life or because we felt like we just couldn't become committed. Girl from sista to sista...you aint stupid...and I know you got a brain....wait until you know the time is right...(and it doesn't have to be marriage)...ok
- I dont think your too young, its just that you have to make sure its the right one. You are also an adult now. But please make sure that he is the right one, because you dont wanna end up like me being young and dumb and made the mistakes I made a couple of mnths ago and I thought I was in love so I just had to have sex with him to prove that this is where he needed to be, just because he was sexy as shit and so sweet and loving to me to me....so we did it a few times and come to find out his girlfriend that he said he no longer talked to was pregnant, and they were engaged. And later down the road I found out that I was too. So please who ever you decide to have sex with, please make sure you can trust them and that you are really in love with them.
- i understand where u're coming from, being that im not a virgin i did wait til i was 21 and while all my friends and people i went to school with was out giving it up like they at McDonalds ordering from the Dollar Menu and now they got 2 or 3 kids and juz 22 or 23. juz wait til u think the time is right i've done got all the way to us being but ass naked and stopped but if he care for u and want u to get freaked when u think its right he'll wait also and when i finally did no regrets at all and we been together since i was 16 and he was 19 and he was willing to wait all that time. and he was more experienced than me and now we're getting married next month on the 4th of July a day after my birthday and i love and adore him he's my heart and im his and our plan is to have kids in 3 or 4 years so i can have my degree and a nice job im in school to become a Child Pysicologist and he's in Construction so juz wait baby girl u'll know when the time is right on u will know no one else. no one knows your body better than u. so juz be patient sweetie. Much Luv MoMo
- Wait until u r truly ready .........u are really not missing anything
Those thoughts can be considered a lot more healthy than actually going out and acting on them. Nothing is wrong with them, as they could possibly have you a little more 'relaxed' and confident when the time rolls around.
I say let your thoughts remain just that until you know that you're ready to handle an intimate relationship with a man.
No rush, it can be good, but it is sometimes over rated, as I like a man who can make love to my mind as well as my body.
~ SL ~- if it feels right then go for it, just be careful!!!
- THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT, THATZ PRACTICALLY NORMAL.......... BUT TRY TO BE CAREFUL IN WHAT EVER YOU DECIDE TO DO.
- You can catch things from people other then fine black men.
- Toys get toys and have fun with your self. Use your imagination and make plans for your future COMMITTED man. Trust me keeping your virginity until the right time is worth it. Horniness is natural that is what drives us to reproduce but your spirituality is more valuable.
- Sex is a sacred thing... you should contain yourself until you find the right guy... iwant to tell you to pray and wait for the dude who wants to marry you, and yall can have sex all day if ya wanted to..
- There's nothing wrong with the thoughts/feelings...it's what you do about it that may or may not get you into trouble. Trust me, if you give into that impulse without thinking it through, you're going to feel terrible about yourself afterwards. The sex won't even feel that good and you'll deal with the feelings of guilt LONG after he's gone! So just wait it out...the sex will feel much better if you do...
- i BASICALLY WAS JUMPING AT THE CHANCE TO GIVE MY VIRGINITY AWAY BECAUSE i FELT i COULDN'T HANDLE THE URGES i WAS HAVING. DONT DO IT IF YOU DONT THINK YOURE READY. I DONT BELIEVE IN MISTAKES BUT I WASNT READY, EVERYTHING THAT FOLLOWED JUST KEPT ME THOROUGHLY STRESSED AND IT WAS SIMPLY JUST TOO MUCH FOR ME TO HANDLE. dO GET SOME TOYS THOUGH, THAT MIGHT WORK. I WISH I WOULDVE THOUGHT OF THAT.
- If you're 18 and still a virgin, you've already got a "label", "undesireable". GET GOING GIRL!!
- i can't say alot, but really as i think someone already said... wait till you find the right person becuase you're not missing anything... I'm 18 myself and I lost my virginity last year to my bf currently now fiance... I didn't have sex with just anyone i had sex with someone I knew cared about me equally as much, and look where we are now... i didn't wait till marriage, but I did find someone who i was comfortable with and knew I wasn't going to regret it
- that last comment was stupid. the perosn who wrote that should be shot. sorry thats a little intense but honestly honey tooth paste cant go back in the tube. NEVER do anything that you can't take back without seriously thought...and that applies to many things other than sex. I would say wait till your married...then youll have no regrets.
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good luck - Girl just fuck and get it over with.
- It is not that big of a deal girls. I am 20 years old and sex is over-rated. If you want someone, go for it but do so safely...it is not like guys are sitting over the computer confessing and regreting about not "waiting" for the right girl. Play like a guy...Trust me...you will get farther
- sex is over rated do it when you want to
- The most common initial reason found in my practice for white women wanting to have sex with a partner of another color is to prove to themselves they aren't racist.
The greatest potential problem with these relationships is unmarried pregnancy and all the problems that accompany having a child of another race.
In the US, the Center for Disease Control tells us that women are 14 times more likely to contract HIV/AIDS when having sex with black men as opposed to sex with white men.
After being informed of those problems, in the end, it's your choice and no one else's. - in the bible it says wait til marriage, if you dont, then GO 2 HELL!
- Have sex with a man that you know he would take care of you if anything happens!!