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Sent to a friend[3034] i am in love with my Sister in law
I am a 38 year old married man. I have been married for 12 years to a wonderful woman. She has never been anything but good to me and has given me three of the greatest children a man could ever have. For the last 2 years her sister and I have been having a secret affair. we have been attracted to one another for a long time but chose to not act on it.Over the years as we have been around each other and have only grown closer, we could no longer deny what we felt. She is my soulmate and there is no way I could love another woman more then I love her. It is tearing us up, the betrayel we both feel is almost too hard to bear. My wife and her sister are very close and always have been, she feels like the worst person on earth and I too feel like a rotten Judas.
This would impact our families and so many people in so many ways. We always ask ourselves when do we sacrifice our own happiness for the sake of other peoples happiness? It is such a hard question to answer. It would mean harming my children as well as hers, her sister who is my wife and her husband who is a very decent man. when we are at family gatherings and I have to watch her leave with her husband it just tears me up inside. I know I am meant to be with this woman and she feels the same way. She has been begging me to come up with a solution so that we can be with one another for good, she does not believe she can keep up this illusion for much longer.
I think the only answer is for us to break it off before we ruin the lives of the ones we are supposed to love the most.
No one on earth knows of this and there is no one I can talk. I feel alienated from everything in my life now. Just writing this out is therapeutic and I now know that the only answer to this is to break it off. Thank You. I have a heavy heart.
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- Just remember the good times you have had and leave it at that because if u spill the beans, your wife and yourwifes sisters husband will probly never forgive her sister and you . Other then lustfull attraction and good sex what are you gonna realy do with her that you cant do with your wife anyways? Im a man who to wishes that life could be like an erotic movie. but its not people are a selfish jealous bunch and dont like to share.if u do get caught just tell em your just fallowing jesus final command and thats for everyone to love each other. that and be happy just being friends with her sister. You can always sleep with her sister which is your wife! If you re determind, get yourwife to sleep with her husband and make them the ones in trouble instead.good luck
- oh God. Sometimes you just have to say "not in this lifetime" &this is one of those times. I don't know if you have ever been cheated on by someone u love but it is the most excruciating pain. It is very clear what ur decision must be if u want to save the people (including ur children)u most luv from incredible pain. Stop being selfish. You made the decision to marry ur wife. Either accept that & fall in luv w her again or divorce her. Stop the affair & Accept that her sister is not an option 4 u. And take this to ur grave aftewards. Your wife deserves more respect than this, especially if she has been as great as you say. Think about someone other than yourself now. I hope you will make the right decision.
- Is it worth it, all the hell that you are putting yourself through. But I am a firm believer that you pay for your secrets eventually. The mouth will eventually tell what the heart feels. It is best that you end this for it will surely end itself in time. Your sister -n-law is about to bust the bubble, it is only a matter of time. The hell that you both feel should be felt, because you both know that you are dead wrong. You and your sister in law are going to get old and when your children and her children have nothing to do with either one of you, the both of you will have what you all wanted each other but that is all that you will have. May GOD HAVE MERCY ON YOUR SOUL, FOR YOU HAVE TRULY STEPPED THROUGH THE THRESHOLD OF HELL WITH THIS SINFUL RELATIONSHIP.
- That is horrible. But I can relate. You should have divorced your wife before screwing her sister.
What a mess. Hmmm. - I am the man who posted this, although I do not know if I have the right to call myself a man anymore. You are all right in what you say. We have both acted foolishly and selfishly, I broke off the relationship soon after posting this confession. I feel like I have lost my right arm. I am brokenhearted over the loss of my wifes sister, but even more I am sick over what I have done to my family even thought they do not have an idea of what happened. My wife knows that something is wrong with me, I have never been one to verbalize my problems but she KNOWS all is not right with me and I can see it hurts her when I do not respond to her offers of help. I do not deserve this wonderful woman and I do not know if I will ever forgive myself for hurting her or her sister. The sad thing is that if her sister calls I will be unable to resist. I don't go to the family gatherings anymore becase I do not trust the two of together, especially after our recent split. I think we both need time and space. I cannot hide from the family forever, I will have to be a man and suck it up. I always thought I was a rock and now I know I am a coward.
- I think you should keep on having your secret affair to the very end. Best thing in an affair is that it is secret, the guilt u feel and especially when it is incest relationship.
Keep fucking her as much as u can
- Dude...
I feel your pain and you are a man but one who has made a mistake. I also am having feelings for my sister-in-law. She is so wonderful and special my kids even love her. I have a daughter from a previous marriage and her and my soon to be ex-wife hate each other but she loves my sister-in law.
We talk and talk like we are best friends and have been texting each other late at night recently. She has supported me thru the impending divorce with her sister and is the only one who talks to me from her family.
My situation is different because my wife was the one who was having the affairs with her ex-boyfriends. I tried to make it work and fight for my family but got tired of battling with her. I had to call my sister-in-law and ask her if she knew about it I just wanted to know if she knew. She was shocked and really concerned about me it was truly nice. We have been talking ever since and I told her that many times I wish it was her I had married. She agreed that we always got along well together. I am now thinking of her a lot, especially when I close my eyes late at night. I want to be with her more and more I think she would want to do the same, but she is a decent person so it probably will not happen for us.
So, I know it is tuff on you and her but first if you two really want to be together you both need to end your marriages. You may choose to tell why maybe not, probably best not to go into it if there are kids involved. Just end your marriages and continue to see each other quitely until some time passes. Love is funny and since she is your wifes sister they share some qualities that atrracted you to your wife, you need to talk to her and ask what she truly wants then take it from there....GL!
- well here a take from a different perspective,I am the adult child of a man who was never fathiful to his wife and was bad at hiding it. I watch my mom cry and suffer endlessly. I hated my dad for what he did to my mom and us. I felt that he did not love her and we were included in that idea. I grew up angry at him and when I was old enough to tell him to go to hell, I did. I felt like I did not need to respect him nor listen to him and when he tried to parent me I'd tell him "GO TO HELL". He tried to lie to us and tell us that it was not true that he was cheating But, I caught him red handed. The resentment and anger has carried through out my life. In 1982 he suffered a serious accident that almost killed him,everyone went to his side includ-
ing my mom. I felt almost at peace that this man was going to die and I was ok with that fact. He made it though and he change his ways.I still carried a lot of resentment and anger,I could not forgive him for his behavior towards us and my mom. What funny is my dad was a great provider and a loving man but, get in between his secret life and he got verbally mean and nasty to all of us. my dad is 86 years old and has been bedridden for sometime it was not until last OCT2008 that he was relly sick and I thought he was going to die again that it actually hurt.I had to put all my negative feeling for him behind us anf I finally forgive him. The greatest gift you can give your kids is to love and respect thier mother. If you feel that she is not your soulmate then do it the right way and be honest with her and leave.
DON"T date anyone until some kind of healing has taken place. Is this love,lust, soulmate stuff worth the love and respect of YOUR KIDS?my dad end up staying with my mom and adores her.it may not be your decision to saty but, you have to put an end to your cheating.
- You need therapy. Seeking the help of a doctor will help you with your grief over the several losses you are feeling- your self-worth, having betrayed your wife and family, and the loss of a love. You need to prepare for the possibility that all this will come out. You sister-in-law is more likely to tell her husband about the affair than you are to tell your wife. Confessing to her husband about her affair with you, while it will hurt him, is not betraying him through an affair with one of his siblings- which is far, far worse. Good luck, you have a long road ahead of you.
- I have been having an affair for the last year with my sister in law. we both feel that we are in love and do not know what to do. she is leaving my brother next month. since i started this affair my life has become a wreck, i cant concentrate on anything else but her and the affair. she was wanting to divorce him before we started this because he had cheated on her , but i know that is no excuse for what i have done. we have tried and tried to cut it off but we love to talk to each other and be around each other. we keep trying to figure out how to make it work. people say that you are sorry for doing this, but you can not help the way you feel about another person. I just wanted to say that you are not alone. i have been going to therapy because of this and my therapist tells me that i should tell him because this is like a boil waiting to burst.
- I have traveled that road and i know waht you are talking about. However I came up with a solution that is helping me keep my eyes of my sister-in-law at least for a couple of days: Whenever I make love to my wife, I am imaginaing that she is her sister, the one I am in love with. The desire for my sister in law fades away at least for several days, and when it comes back, my wife is there for me in her stead.