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Sent to a friend I recently lost my virginity. I kind of regret it because the boy I did it with lied to me saying he didn't have a girlfriend then sooner or later I found out he did and it was the white girl next door. Now as a young black women I was surprised to find out that I was his first black girl but I just want to go to his house sometimes and cuss him out for treating me like trash. I'm not easy. There is just so many times you can go through the same situation and I gave in. At first I wasn't feelin him but now that I know he has a girl it just makes me MAD! I haven't really made the situation a big deal. I just think about it alot.Rating:3.00
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- first off thy boyfriend being with a white girl has nothing to do with this situation... secondly you should value your body then just to give in literally... men will say anything in hopes of getting between the legs of a given woman... in all u can learn from this experience, so be ready for when TRUE LOVE comes your way... ( Admin )
- It is too late to beat yourself up about it. It is already done and it can't be reversed. Please see your doctor and make sure you haven't contracted any STD.
Second, find out more about yourself (this will take waiting a few years) and learn to love yourself (this will also take a few years). Get involved with community service and/or sports. Establish 5 year and 10 year goals.
THEN consider having sex with men. At least at that point, you will have a mature enough mind to deal with it.
Good Luck. - I had a situation similar to yours, except my virginity was stolen by a boy who was my neighbor. I was shamed and afraid to tell my mother because she always told me to keep my dress down. I never really understood what that meant. However the boy went and told his friend that he had sex with me so his friend called me and asked me to let him do it too, so I told him I had been raped. He apologized and got on his friend for what he'd done to me but still I was afraid to tell my mother, so; I wrote the incident down on paper and hid it. Later, my mother found it and read it. When she asked me about it, I finally admitted it. Nothing was done. Nobody wanted to see the boy in jail. He was a big guy for sixteen. I was only fourteen. I never really got over it. But life just keeps coming at you. You learn to go on.
- I feel yall
- I Feel You Because I Went Through The Same Thing..All You Can Do Is Live With It And Next Time Dont Give In...Sex Is Over Rated So Dont Think That You Have To Have Sex With Any Man...Respect Your Self And Never Let Situations Like This Bring You Down....You Made A Mistake...Live With It And Move On Cuz Rememba What Doesnt Kill You Makes You Stronger
- Sorry to read this baby girl (((((HUG))))), hopefully your next time will be with your husband.
For the rest of the sisters ready to give themselves to a man or boy, I will tell you what my father told me when I was a young girl, "Do not allow any man to lay between your legs, unless he is your husband. If he truly loves you, he will do the honorable thing and make you his wife!"
Your regret is your own and you have to let it go or it will consume you. The flesh is weak and that is why it is wise to keep yourself free from tempting situations.
You learned a valuable lesson and with that, make a vow of celibacy and stick to it this time. Stop beating yourself up over it and don't blame him, he did what he knew to do to get you in bed and that was all he was concerned about.
~SL~