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Sent to a friend I never realized just how many secrets my family keeps locked away. I'm just now starting to figure it all out... but there is still so far to go. I don't understand where everything went wrong.Rating:1.00
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- Whatver it is, try not to let it affect you. My family is the same and it is only recently I've realised much of the worry was in vein. You don't need the stress it will cause you. Make your own life, make your own problems but don't inherit anyone elses.
- Easier sayed then done..
- You can not live your life based on the secrets your family carry. Those are their burdens to bare not yours.
- Three years ago I finally told my family that I was going to start talking about the family secrets, some of which have been hidden for decades. I told them that I did not have much energy left for pretending, but that I DO have energy for telling the truth, forgiving, being reconciled.
The first thing I did was to sit down with my younger brother and talk about our childhood. I kept asking him if he wanted me to go on, because there is some hard stuff in there. He kept telling me to go on. Afterwards i found out he told his wife it was the best conversation he ever had with me. My sister said similar things.
Hardest was talking with my Mom, who is still in denial. But what a difference it has made for me. For years I wondered if she would die before I could ask certain questions only she could answer. Now I have asked them. And I have told my side of the story. No more pressure. What a relief. Everything is sadder, but more real and workable. My wife says that my doing this has made a big chance for good in me.
Many friends prayed for me while I went through this process. May God give you and other family members you grace to speak and hear the truth with a merciful heart of forgiveness also.