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Sent to a friend Help me out. My boyfriend came home drunk (after spending the electric bill money) and physically abused me. I know he doesn't care about me , probably never did, but I'm feeling so disgusted with myself and I'm still in pain. I've been just moping around, trying to get my mind off of what happened, and mad because I thought that if I kept helping him he would change his bad habits. He is in jail now.Anybody ever had someone they loved hurt them like this? How do you start to heal afterwards? It's bad enough I have no family around, and my best friend is his sister ( but even though she knows he was dead wrong, blood is thicker than water). How can I stop from feeling like I'm nothing? Everything , after all these years, just went to waste. I don't even think I can move on , because I can't trust anybody. I feel so inadequate, like garbage.Rating:5.00
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- wake up and smell the coffee... this is the best thing to happen to you... now i say move on with your life and leave this jailbird alone... there are plenty of good men out there, so do remeber that... as far a friends, i say first re-connect with your REAL FAMILY... later on u then can seek out friendships, etc... ( Admin )
- yOU SHOULD START OFF FRESH AND NEW.iT MIGHT TAKE YOU SOME TIME TO HEAL BUT YOU WILL GET OVER IT. DO NOT MOP AROUND THAT WILL MAKE IT WORSE GET UP OFF YOUR BUTT. AND SINCE HE'S NOT AROUND YOU COULD START ON WORKING ON MAKING YOUR SELF BETTER AND FOR THE DAY YOU WILL HAVE TO TELL HIM YOU DON'T WANT TO BE WITH HIM. WHO IS MOST IMPORTANT YOU RIGHT? WHO ARE YOU DOING THIS FOR YOU? YOU DO NOT WANT MATTERS TO GET WORSE B/C NEXT TIME HE MIGHT KILL YOU. AND THERE HAS TO BE SOMEONE OUT THERE ELSE YOU TRUST AND IF YOU HAVE NO PLACE TO GO SHELTERS HELP AND CAN PLACE YOU IN AN APARTMENT. YOU CAN DO IT!!!!
- GURL BE FOR REAL LET THAT BASTARD GO.......... I MEAN I KNOW ITS GONNA BE HARD BECUZ YALL ARE IN LOVE BUT.... YOU GOTTA LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES AND GIVE LOVE ANOTHER CHANCE YOU NEVER KNOW U MIGHT FIND YOUR SOULMATE ONE DAY.
- There are organizations in your area that can help you to begin to heal from all of this and to do all that you need to do in order to rid yourself of him.
YOU have to be sure that this is what YOU want and YOU have to be ready to walk away and not look back.
Love hurts and it takes time to heal and get over someone, but no one can love you better than you can love yourself.
If you feel that you aren't ready to leave him alone all together, at least give yourself enough time away from him that he's able to see what life without you would be like, and also to prove to yourself that you are complete without him.
His sister is going to always be his sister and she may not be ready to accept the fact that he is an abuser, find your solace in the kind hearts of the professionals who are in place to help women such as yourself.
I'll be praying for you! ((( hugs )))...
~SL~ - I will pray for you. but I hope that this will help you realize that he is not good for you. Also, I hope that this isn't the second or third time he has hit you. Please remve your life from him . I know it is hard but you need to be free...... the prodigal child did return home. You can go home... to your REAL family.
- I was in abusive relationship too.. I feel helpless - I always try to justify what he does.. and even thought that its my fault.. or feel sorry for him because of his family issue/history.. anyhow - you have to respect your self.. good thing im smart to know that i have the right to say no - when its enough.. and courage to leave - and I hope you too...
- I've been hurt gurl. It hurts deep to the bone. You do feel like there's something wrong with you. Inadequate. At fault. But I realized this aint had a damn thing to do with me. He has the problem, I just got caught in the crossfire. Sweetheart HE has the problem. Obviously even the judicial system can see that. Regardless of what he's in jail for, he's in jail. This is an opportunity for you to run and never look back. and as far as his sister, blood is thicker than water my ass! My borther cheated on his girlfriend and when she would call me crying about it I told her to leave his raggedy ass. I love my brother with my WHOLE heart. But the late great Malcolm X said, "Wrong is wrong no matter who's doing it". Don't worry luv, look to the sky and seek love from there. Love yourself. Befriend yourself. If you are your best friend you wont let things like this happen again. I wish you blessings.
- Hello all! I am the author of this posting and I just wanted to follow up with this, even though I know it's EXTREMELY old.I want to thank you guys for all of your uplifting words and advice. I am proud to let you know that I have washed my hands of him and have been single and free since last November. He is in prison so I dont have to worry about him bothering me like that. Me and his sister are as close as ever (she had also been experiencing the same thing with her bf, who is also in prison now.) It was almost like it was us vs. them. Through it all , we stuck together, went to church and prayed on our situation. She now is dating a loving man and I am free to love myself and be happy finally!! lol Thank you all and I hope that someone will be able to learn from me, because trust, that feeling is an awful one and the cycle of abuse has to stop. God bless!