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Sent to a friend[4225] Betrayed and heartbroken
I've just had one of the most miserable weekends of my life.There is a female friend that I have really liked for a while and now and I've been bringing her out a lot with my circle of friend. I met her when she was with her boyfriend a while back but she broke up with him a couple of months ago and has pretty much clung to me ever since. She knew that I liked her from the start and she confessed to me upon breaking up with her boyfriend that she really likes me too. But she said that she doesn't want me to be the rebound guy because she doesn't want to hurt me and all.
Anyhow, this last weekend I took her out with my friends and we hit one of the town's bars. By about 1 AM she decided to go home because she felt a bit drunk. One of my very good friends also announced that he will go home because he is tired and offered to give drop her off in his taxi. Little gullible me of course bid them farewell and told them I would see them the following day, only to find out that he took her back to his place and they slept together. I asked her about it the following day and she said she was drunk and it was just sex and it meant nothing to her.
That Saturday night again we went to a club with the same group of friends, by the end of the night as we stumbled out for the taxis I asked her to come back to mine, but she told me she was tired and just wanted to go home, only for her to jump in his taxi again and guess where she ended up yet again?
The following morning I was absolutely livid and fumed at her over the phone and she started sobbing and told me that she really likes me and that it was just a big mistake and she's got no feelings for my friend whatsoever. I hung up on her and I've been avoiding her calls and messages ever since.
She says she's really sorry but she and my friend have both hurt me beyond belief and I don't know if I can or should ever forgive them again! Plus, I'm good friends with the guy and we share the same circle of friends so this will potentially break up our very close group of friends.
I've already told her that I refuse to be the nice friend who gets jerked around and watch her bounce from one guy to the next whilst offering her a shoulder to cry on should she get hurt. Because from my past experiences I KNOW nice guys finish last.
I mean if I do forgive them what does that say about me?! I have no self-respect and I'm willing to be made a fool of time and time again pretty much. I really like the girl and it would break my heart not to see her again. But I believe in what a friend of mine told me and that is "The right path is always darker and challenging. The easy road is bright and sunny but leads to the wrong destination. " but I just don't know what to do, I’m broken, I’m angry and I’m confused
Help please???!!!!
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Comments
- Your feeling the way you do because you like her and she's not reciprocating. The only way you can win this is to take a deep breath and realize you've been fooling yourself. She loves the attention you've given her and probably has really appreciated the friendship side. Also, there is no doubt that your attraction to her has boosted her confidence, one reason why she can't help but keep you close - she's afraid of where she'll get that confidence if you are gone. You can have self respect - by beginning to treat her like one of the guys and look elsewhere for girls you are attracted to. Just stay cool and you're feelings about your buddy (the guy she slept with) will fall into place from there. Usually, the cure for this is to find other girls you are attracted to and allow distance to come between you and the previous girl. It's ok and it's healthy for you - and YOU are who you need to look out for.
- im sorry but at the end of the day.. i guy will be a guy. the only way a guy can get between a girl legs is if she open it for him. (or if he raped her but that wasnt the case i dont think, and that would be another story). She is a female and she should take better care of herself. when i say that, i mean she should be fully careful about who it is that she sleeps with. that is disgusting that she would sleep with your freind of all people. drunk or not. are you going to wait for her to fuck somebody that is not your freind while she is drunk? she's a nasty girl, leave her alone.
and im a female saying this.. - From the sound of this your a great guy who deserves a great girl! Let me tell you one thing and this is a female speaking, when you opened up to her and told her your feelings and she told you she liked you too but didn't want you to be the rebound guy, this means "i just want to be friends" take if from me, I've used that same line. SHe enjoys your friendship more than she would your relationship and it just goes to show that she really didn't care about you as a friend either since she knew how you felt and she just turns around and sleeps w/ your buddy that 1st night? And since when is being drunk an excuse? Believe me she wanted it and needed it (sex) just not from you. I think you should continue to be friends w/ your buddy and start hanging w/ a cuter hotter chick and let her see what a great guy she missed out on!