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Sent to a friend I am in love with a married man. I really, truly love him. He's a very important part of my life. He pushes me to better my life and helps me out when I need anything. My problem is I knew he was married when I got with him and I never have and never will ask him to leave his wife and kid. Lately I been wanting the same things he has at home. I want kids and he's not having anymore kids, because his are all grown. I'm only 26. Should I stop seeing him even though I love him so much?Rating:3.50
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- I OFTEN SAY THAT WE ALWAYS ASK QUESTIONS FOR WHICH WE ALREADY HAVE THE ANSWERS TO. YES, BY ALL MEANS YOU SHOULD STOP SEEING HIM. IT WILL ONLY END IN MORE HEARTACHE FOR YOU THE LONGER YOU CONTINUE TO SEE HIM AND TRUST ME IT WILL END. YOU ARE ONLY CHEATING YOURSELF WHEN YOU HAVE AN AFFAIR WITH A MARRIED MAN. MARRIED MEN DO NOT LIKE TO BE TURNED DOWN, SO THEY APPROACH WOMEN WHO FOR WHATEVER REASON WILL OFFER THE LEAST RESISTANCE. THE WOMAN WHO SETTLE FOR VERY LITTLE, LIKE A PHONE CALL ON XMAS DAY INSTEAD OF A VISIT. ONE NIGHT A WEEK OF INTIMATE TIME TOGETHER. THE OTHER WOMAN IS ALWAYS GIVING OF HER TIME AND GIVING UP HER DREAMS. YOU ARE YOUNG, DON'T SETTLE. WHAT YOU ARE DOING NOW, WOULD YOU WANT THAT DONE TO YOU IF YOU WERE MARRIED? A LOT OF WOMEN HAVE BEEN WHERE YOU ARE, AND WE ALL HAVE HAD TO CHOOSE. MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE. IT MAY NOT BE EASY BUT IT WILL BE RIGHT.
Yes, you should leave him and open yourself up to receive a man who is better able to give you what you want and need, without the drama or guilt, that's usually associated with having an affair with a married man. He might be "good" to and for you, but he's not good for your heart and mind, as being in love with him has caused you to let your guard down and allow yourself to be "second best." It's going to hurt and you will initially miss him, but you have to be strong enough to walk away and not look back. Only then will you find yourself embarking on a journey of peace and personal satisfaction. ~ SL ~
- I have been in a long term relationship with a married man, so I can relate to your dilemma. The greatest issue I had with our "relationship" was when he decided to change it - to use the "L" word in reference to me. He said things like he wished he would have met me before her, "you are the only person that has ever gotten me", etc. All of those things that married men say...Did he leave her? NO and I finally moved on. I am not dating anyone else but from experience, (and two years of pain and tears)...walk away now. My married ex had a grown up daughter and an unhappy marriage...but the bottom line is he didn't leave her. To add to matters, we work together. We are finally able to be co-workers without the hurt and disappointment for me. I know and knew when we first started seeing each other that it was wrong and he was married. In order to get over the relationship, I had to put myself in his wife's shoes and ask myself how I would feel if I found out the man I have been with for a 1/4 of a decade was messing around with someone else - telling her he loved her, taking time away from me, etc. Once I was able to put myself in her shoes, I could no longer, in good conscience continue the relationship. I do miss him because we did share a special bond - a closeness that I have never known before...but he was not mine to have - he was already taken.
SS - It means a lot to here from other women, that have been in my shoes, I know what I have to do, but I have to admit I am scared. We've been together so long. We also work together, which allows us to spend more time with each other. I know I have to let him go. Please pray for me, I really need the LORD's help.
- Sister...You only live once.....Live! For all you know..this Affair may be just that...an affair.... Please let him go totally if you "let him go"...Don't let a memory of something that was meant to soon pass haunt you...and me made into a "MARTRY" as far a relationships go .... If you let him go....let him go completely....but not because he is married...but because he's just not the complete man you desire to have in your life. Also....you may seem to be Miss right to him....but 9 times out of ten....ur Mis next......He'll cheat again...as soon as he finds some character flaw that does not suit him. He has probably been marked by a bad experience in his current relationship and does not have the courage to move on...So He has made a "lateral" move in your direction.....He will displace love and affection he wants to show to his wife,....to you. The sad thing is he probably genuinely thinks he "loves" you....but is only breaking your heart slowly. Sort out the feelings that you have for him.....and realize that you have "fallen" for character traits of your future love.....His soul is calling out to you...through this gentleman..... You have been touched by the soul of your future love through this man.... Be at peace....Love your self......and stay open for love....it will come to pass......But this is not him......He sees traits in you that he desires to see in his wife......take care.....(cqsr63@aol.com)
- I feel as though I'm reading my own story here... I too, am involved with a married man that was my boss and now is not, but I still work with him. He's had affairs before, as have I, but I took the step to get divorced and he has not. I married my high school sweetheart, because everyone else wanted me to, and then found my soulmate. I believe he feels the same way, but grew up without either parent and wants to provide that for his kids. I know that I should leave for my own sanity, but I love him and want to believe him. In the meantime, I am alone, have no kids and grow older every year... But I can't leave.
- i love a married man.. i have been with him for 2 years. i see him only when he can get away , which isnt very often. i have been separated from my husband for 1 year now. and he has helped me cope with the pain and loniness,. i want more time with him . but i can not have him.. he is not mine. i dont want to let him go when he is with me. i cry for him.. i miss him, i want him to be all mine. but that will never happen. i feel he is my best friend, and im confused. i cant say goodbye. although i think about that almost daily , the pain is to much to handle.
- wow, i too am dating a married man....lol is there any married men that are faithful to their women left?...don't look like it ...
its hard to leave,ya know its the rightthing to do,but to have that strength is so very hard - I am in love with a married man but there are times that I ask myself am I truly in love or is it that I AM SCARED OF BEING COMPLETLY alone. if I can say he is a wonderful man and he have been better to me and for me then anyone else that's been in my life but it dose'nt excuse that this is all wrong. I stuggle almost daily with the pain and moral issue in this relationship.i want to let go and then I want to stay. there will be a time that I will be strong enoug to let go