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Sent to a friend I intially responded to another poster with this but realized that it was my own confession, so here it is! I am a 46 yr old man married to woman of the year for nearly 20 yrs. My marriage has always been strong in spite of the last 12-14 yrs. there has been an extreme physical deficiate. My wife is a textbook mother and home keeper. But our sex life dwindled to once ever 6 or 7 weeks. I excepted this as being part of the better or worse chapter. I asked her repeatedly to see the doctor but she side stepped it or the doctor told her it was just stress. This created a terrible emotional roller coaster for myself. Rising and falling between feelings of rejection and confirmation. It became so intense that at times I would avoid going to bed when I knew she wanted to have sex, so that I didnt have to go through the ups and downs. but in '04 I took a job that required me to travel extensively. This took me away from the emotional pitfalls that I was experiencing. While on the road I remained faithful to my wife until fall "07. I met a woman while working in the midwest. The moment we were introduced it was electric! I have never felt that before! She too was married but seemingly unhappy. We immediately wound up striking up a friendship as though we were long lost friends, it was amazing! We both felt as though we had known each other for years! We very attracted to each other physically as well. Well we became intimate. It was like I was 18 again! The entire relationship was so exciting, so fulfilling. For us both. Her husband had cheated several yrs before and although they had made up she had never quite gotten past it. I had my eyes opened to what a loving passionate relationship was all about! When I went home for Holidays I told my wife that I couldn't live the way things had been any longer. I wanted the passion back in my life. She proceeded to attend to her problem ASAP. Im not sure why she hadn't in the past. She even lost nearly 50 lbs (which was no problem to me) over the next few months. Now she knows about the affair but has been very civil about it. She understands everthing that caused this. She tells me all she really wants is me! My problem is a year and a half later Im still trying to recapture my feelings with my wife, who is now insatuable and I am still madly in love with this other woman. in this time she has moved her husband out and back in. I have tried to close her out of my life completely but I cant breath if there is no contact with her. I havent seen her in over 4 months and it is driving me crazy! She feels the same way she sez. I know that what Im giving up is far better for me than what I would be getting. But I just dont know what to do. We do have strong religious convictions which makes this even harder! I am truly stumbling in the dark! My heart is torn to shredds.Rating:0.00
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- i totally understand you
- Concentrate on your wife fully, try to bring the magic back. Forget about the other woman. Give it a few months, go to couples councelling. Nothing is worth breaking up a marriage and family for. You loved her once and you can do it again.
- stop this "take one for the team" mentality. this is YOUR life youre talking about. its good that u dont want to hurt your wife but life is life. people change and grow. marriages end. most are not meant to last. the human life span is less than 1000 months. youre down to about 400 now. how many more of those do you want to spend unhappy?
- You have to remove the whore in your life to see the love of life..who is your wife! Sorry for being so blunt.. but I think this other woman is the reason you can't see your wife..and effort your wife has done for YOU! That should be signs enough that your wife LOVES you and the lack of wanting to have sex isn't you at all! Women change.. and you told us her downfalls.. but never mentioned yours. I'm sure you haven't been perfect! Maybe she wants passion outside of the bedroom!