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Sent to a friend Hey I am 16 and 7 1/2 months pregnant by a 19 year old boy; who I am currently living with right now. I love him with all my heart and Im pretty sure he loves me...but in a way im kinda not sure, he tells me all the time that he loves me he gives me the world and makes me smile inside and out he just gives me the chills when he is around. But I dont know if this is real. We both are anxious and cannot wait for the arrival of our little boy in september. The bad thing is his so called ex-girl friend is pregnant as well I asked him about it and he told me that he did have sex with her around the time the baby was concieved but its a slim possibility that the baby is his, but he will get a paternity test to make sure. And if the baby does turn out to be his then that shows that he was cheating on me....I dont know what to do because I never felt like this before I wanna be with him and I wanna make this work..but I dont want my worst fear to happen of this baby being his. But if it is I dont know whether or not we should stay together/split. I swear I really dont wanna loose him....he is basically all I have right nowRating:0.00
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- IF HE IS BASICALLY ALL THAT YOU HAVE NOW, THEN YOU HAVE NOTHING. N-O-T-H-I-N-G!!!!! WHEN YOU HAVE THAT BABY YOU WILL HAVE A CHILD WHO WILL LOVE YOU UNCONDITIONALLY. IF YOU ARE SMART YOU WILL ALSO HAVE A CHECK---- CHILD SUPPORT. CHECK THIS ROMEO RIGHT NOW, FILE ON HIM AND MAYBE HE WILL RAP IT UP THE NEXT TIME. BECAUSE JUST LIKE TODAY WAS TOMORROW, HE WILL CHEAT AGAIN. YOU HAVE YOUR HEALTH AND STRENGTH, AND YOU HAVE AN INNER VOICE THAT IS TELLING YOU THAT SOMETHING IS NOT QUITE RIGHT. LISTEN TO THAT VOICE ALWAYS, IT GOD'S WAY OF WARNING YOU. AS FOR HIM CHEATING ON YOU, YOU DON'T NEED A PATERNITY TEST FOR THAT HE TOLD YOU THAT HE HAD SEX WITH THE EX- GIRLFRIEND, WHAT OTHER PROOF DO YOU NEED? REMEMBER, YOU CAN'T HOLD ON TO SOMETHING THAT YOU DON'T HAVE. DON'T LOSE HIM-- LEAVE HIM AND FILE CHILD SUPPORT, JUST BECAUSE HE CHEATED ON YOU, DON'T LET HIM CHEAT YOUR CHILD.
- First and foremost, baby girl... let me tell you.. i dont know you, but it touched my heart of that u we're pregnant... but this is what u should do... concetrate onyou and and ur baby.. thats number one! knoimean? make sure u and baby is healthy, and u finish school.. and college. Because i got pregnant last year with twins! at 18 just graduated from hs thank god.. and my "boy" friend did not want me to keep it, get an abortion, but i didnt, he said it wasnt his( it was) he lied on me, talked about me... but if it wasnt 4 GOD... you hear me? unfortuanlly, i lost my twins boys 5 mos. i was stressed out... but GOD did give me a second chance to go to school,, etc... and my sister, i want u to succeed in EVERYTHING thing u do... if u need help holla at me 7343085331 meka
- GOD BLESS YOU MEKA!!! --IT IS OH SO GRACIOUS OF YOU TO REACH OUT TO THIS SISTER. I PRAY THAT SHE TOUCHES THE HAND THAT WAS EXTENDED TO HER AND THAT SHE KNOW ---THAT IT WILL BE OK. GOD BLESS BOTH OF YOU --YOUNG SISTERS.
First of all, there's no need in YOU getting all worked up before any tests have been taken to prove anything of his paternity.
Secondly, if it does come back positive, YOU are the one who is with him now and YOU are the one who will have to decide whether or not you're strong enough to get past it.
Also, don't forget that your son and her child will be half-siblings and they by no means should be on the receiving end of any animosity or hard feelings.
The most you and his ex should do is allow your children to grow up knowing about each other and establishing a bond that half-siblings aren't always able to experience, because of the drama associated with the parents.
Talk to your guy and lay all of your cards on the table. Letting him know how you feel might help him to understand your position more clearly and it may help him to man up and make the 'right' decision concerning all of you.
You don't have to be "buddy-buddy" with his ex, but having a decent rapport with her and allowing your children to see that some of us do have some sense and do know how to put the best interests of the children first, will be a reward that nothing else can match.
~SL~
- IT IS NOT HIS PLACE--- TO MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION CONCERNING--- ALL OF THEM. THE EX- GIRLFRIEND HAS A DECISION TO MAKE,---- AND THE PRESENT GIRLFRIEND HAS A DECISION TO MAKE. THE DECISION THEY MAKE MIGHT NOT BE ONE THAT---- HE ( THE MAN) LIKES. HE HAD HIS CHANCE TO MAKE A DECISION CONCERNING ALL OF THEM--- AND HE CHOSE TO HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX WITH BOTH. NOW IT TIME FOR THE LADIES TO MAKE A CHOICE.---- BUT IF THEY ARE WISE THE CHOICE WILL INCLUDE GETTING A CHECK!!!--- DIPLOMACY HAS IT PLACE! ALL OF THE CHILDREN WILL GET ALONG WHEN THEY EACH KNOW THAT THEY HAVE A FATHER THAT LOVES AND SUPPORTS THEM FINANCIALLY. ---IT'S ALSO NOT A MATTER IF SHE IS STRONG ENOUGH TO GET PASS THIS. IT'S MATTER OF IF SHE WANTS TO DEAL WITH THIS NOW AND QUITE POSSILBLY IN THE FUTURE.
- Hey baby girl your in a situation that is not hard to get out of. Stop thinking he is all you have. Right now hes not even important, its all about you and your baby. The fact that he cheated on you with an ex is downright wrong. If you ask me u should leave his ass and file child support. That'll make him think twice about sleeping round and knocking females up. He's only 19 yrs old, maybe he'll grow up after getting hit with some real life responsibilties. Caring for two babies and satisfying 2 baby mammas can become a handful. Keep ya head and so what YOU gotta do to be happy. Put your baby first not yo man!!!
- gurl, i feel your pain.
last year i had a miscarriage at 3 months,do to stress,my man was cheating on me ,with 5 different women.
gurl i'm telling you right now,no man is worth giving up your happiness and your child!!!!!!!
YOU AND YOUR BABY IS NUMBER ONE!
please don't make the same mistake i did and think that he is more important...u will regret it!!!
much luv to ya gurl