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Sent to a friend my mother in law is the most needy dependent annoying woman i know. even her voice is annoying. she always sounds like she\'s whining. my mom is so independent, and never asked for the kind of help my mil expects of her kids/people in general. she thinks it\'s normal... i dont. i think she\'s annoying. i love her and i do appreciate how hospitable she is, but in a way... misery likes company and that pretty much sums up how she is. she is with a man (my fil) who use to hit her all the time, and still does drugs (meth). he\'s really nice to my son so i appreciate that i guess. up until now he has never bothered me too much on a personal level. the only thing that bothered me before was why are they together. well mil doesn\'t want to leave him becuz she\'s needy. weird. but whatever. it\'s their life.. do what makes them happy. but they are SOOO intrusive on our lives. we live with them. my husband said @ first they will help us out, and they want us to live there. now we\'re planning to move out... long story short i helped my husband with school and he is finally getting a job and we are well on our way as a family unit. well now i gues the in-laws sense that... and are suddenly acting up. even fil is acting up. it\'s hard to deal with the anxiety of my in-laws. they expect us to help with every1 in the family including lazy older brother in law who has 4 kids and hasn\'t had a job in over 10-15 yrs. yah... we\'ve been helping them and they never say thank u in fact they push us around and demand things. acts weird if we don\'t do anything for them. beggers can\'t be choosers, basicly. but they don\'t get that. we\'re not on good terms with them anymore. so now mil and fil is yelling @ us. my mil yelled @ me out of nowhere and said why i don\'t call her mom/dad. she thinks i\'m isolating myself from her. uh no. i tried in the beginning and they never responded to that. i felt awkward and stopped. but in a way calling some1 mom/dad who isn\'t my mom/dad.. .especially MOM.... is weird to me. my mom is my only mom. she is special to me. if i don\'t want to call my mil and fil mom/dad... shouldn\'t they respect that? no... gotta be their way. so i said fine... i\'ll call u what u want if it makes u happy. even tho deep down inside i feel like i am being disloyal to my mom for doing that. they don\'t care about anybody\'s agenda but theirs. i only go see my mom with my son once a week, every sunday. she has cancer and is a wonderful single mom. but every sunday morning they give me hell... tell my son to eat with them spend time with them. look... we only go see her once a week. what is their problem? they are jealous b/c we\'re going to see the OTHER granma. who RESPECTS her boundaries with them.. .why can\'t they just respect hers... it\'s ONLY once a week. they get to see my son EVERYDAY whenever they want. SO ANNOYING. well we\'re finally moving out and they are both getting on us about it too... contradicting themselves. saying they want us to move on as a family & not burden us, but then say... well we\'ll miss our grandson. we won\'t help them with things now.... won\'t come by etc. who said that?! bunch of insecure ppl. nobody said we won\'t help or come by. not calling mil and fil mom/dad in no way means i disrespect them either. i\'ve ALWAYS been respectful. they are SOOOOO NEEEDY!!! i am sick of it. i feel like i have to constantly baby them to make them feel better. who is the adult here??? i wish more people were like my mom. STRONG... INDEPENDENT... LOVES/CARES FOR HER KIDS HAPPINESS AND WANTS NOTHING MORE/NEVER ASKS FOR ANYTHING/ALWAYS A LEADER. i wish i wish i wish. @ least i have this special relationship with my mom. my inlaws are crazy and insecure... stuck in their past & negative all the time. they act like they know what the real deal is, but never resolves anything. i know what they want... they want to live with us. they want to burden us. they got 3 kids... spoils the one who shouldn\'t be spoiled the most (bil who has 4 kids and doesn\'t work) and expects US to help them... who has been nothing but USED the last 4 yrs... no respect coming from their end to us. now we\'re moving... they are panicking. they MADE us say we\'ll still help u out, don\'t worry. make us feel guilty for living there... they know we\'re the nicest ones. thats why they take complete advantage of us. well... @ least i know god is watching over us. if something is completely unfair he will be our judge. let us do what\'s right even if most ppl in our lives, are wrong. so @ least we can handle our end of what happens in our lives that we can\'t control. i know... we are doing the best... i know @ least, i am doing my best. my mom would be upset if she knew how they were making me feel.. but would probably be proud of how strong i am. i take that from her. thank okasan! i love you. wow... feels good to vent...Rating:5.00