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Sent to a friend This is a long one but I\'ll try to shorten it a bit:I met this dude L* in November 2004. After about 3 days or so he called me and told me that some female that he used to mess with just called him and told him that she was 3 months pregnant. I told him off rip I dont mess with that baby mamma shit but since we wasnt into anything serious I continued to talk to him. We was hanging all the damn time. I mean I was ova there like 5 days out da week. In the beginning I had my mind made up...I was like Im not gon catch feelings fa dis dude like that cause of his situations so we was just friends...I just got out of a relationship and we both new that we were not ready for anything serious.
Well anyways this went on until March 2005 when the baby was getting ready to come. When he told me that there was a hge change - a chnage in me that is. I stopped calling completly and I stopped going over there. But by this time the unthinkable happened - I had already fallen in love with him...it had to be love. I never felt this way about someone at all. I really cared for him and I knew he cared for me.
So the baby came and then drama!!! I would go over there and guess who would be outside..his baby mamma. But she never said anything to me so I believed him when he said she\'s just over there for the baby. Because we would hop in the car and we would be gone till morning. SO this went on until about Septemeber of 2005. One day I get a phone call from some female hollering bout the baby mamma and L*being together. Then the baby mamma gets on the phone and shes telling that she lives there and all this shit so Im like what!!?? Im heated now, I mean I wanted to kill that nigga. She telling me how they been together 6 yrs and blah blah, and how shes pregnant again!!! So he realizes that were on the phone and he starts yelling at her and all this shit so I hang up. He calls me back and I tell him dont ever call me again. I was so upset and hurt. I felt sick to stomach when I thought about him. So he said okay Im not gon call no more so like a hour later he starts calling. So I ignore the calls but he keeps calling. I answer and ask him why the fuck he did all this shit, why he didnt tell me, its not like we were officially b/f and g/f so he should of told me. So since then alll trust has been gone. He still calls but I dont call him at all. So around January of this year he calls and tells me he has something important to tell but he has to tell me to my face. So I go see him to hear what he has to tell me and guess muthafuckin what??? He told me she was pregnant again!!!!!!!!!!! with twins!!!!!!!!!! I was like oh hell naw ima stop talkin to yo ass fa real...so da dam girl wasnt lieing when she told me she was pregnant again. He tells me constantly that he loves me and I know he does but his situation is just fucked up!! So I dont speak to him as much like we used to but I just need someone to share their opinions on the situation.
Obviously I know we cant be together, at least no time soon, but do I continue to be his friend? I mean hes not a mean person and he is the only person that I\'ve that loves me for me. He loves everything about me and he cant never stay mad at me, no matter what I do. But I feel like a fool if I still communicate with him, but then I ask myself why should I stop talkin to him if were just friends? I think its a selfish feeling right now because i cant have him to myself like i use to. the trust is completly gone so thats a huge fuck up right there. do i continue to communicate with him on a friend tip or treat him as if hes married? cuz he might as well be since he already got a family.
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- YES YOUR STORY IS LONG, BUT THE ANSWER IS SHORT. THE ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTION IS IN THE LAST LINE OF YOUR VERY LONG STORY.--- (TREAT HIM AS IF HE'S MARRIED, BECAUSE HE MIGHT AS WELL BE, SINCE HE ALREADY GOT A FAMILY) ----GIRL YOU ARE SMART AND DON'T KNOW IT. OR COULD IT BE YOU DON'T WANT TO KNOW IT. GOD SUPPLIES EACH OF US WITH AN AMOUNT OF WISDOM FOR EACH OF OUR SITUATIONS. AS IS THE CASE ALWAYS, HE HAS SUPPLIED YOUR NEEDS. BE BLESSED!!!! CONSIDER YOURSELF BLESSED THAT YOU ARE NOT THE BABIES' MOMA. IF YOU ASKED GOD FOR A SIGN THEN TRUST THAT HE HAS NOT THROWN YOU A PEBBLE,BUT A BOULDER. LEAVE THIS MAN (TROUBLE) ALONE!!!!!!!
- i say let him go 4 now and let him tend to his family......when time permits and u 2 are willing, dispite his "family"... then go 4 it... and if there is no drama attached
good luck
- In time you two proably can be friends, but right now you need to step back from this situation. Becauise even though you two never had a relationship there was love there. If its meant to be it will be, let him deal with his family and call him and tell him that, so he will know where u stand.
Please do not allow this man to burden you with his issue with this chick.
Peace
Fetima - No one needs this drama and this is just not the man for you. Learn your lesson and move on. Find a man who gives you what you want. We have to learn to look for true love and happiness rather than good dick and drama. We are so worth it.
- you are just going to have to let go of him as a lover because of his situation.No one wants to deal with that type of stuff especially if you wanted to start a family of your own with him. His children are always going to be his children and he is going to always take care of them, at least for 18 years.Its ok to be his friend but keep it on an associate level. If yall get too close againg, aint no telling that his baby momma won't try to keep you away from him because she might think that your going to take him away from her.Even if its just for the kids she is might to want to keep him around so the kids can have a father figure.
- can anyone on here type in english? this site is supposed to be in english, not ebonics/uneducated language.